i noticed that ALL girls i start seeing will eventually ask to see a picture of ex-girlfriends/girls i've dated, etc. and they tend to press too after i deny their first requests. what's up w/ that? happens all the time and i'm sure many of you guys can relate. right now, this girl wants to see my ex's myspace profile; i didn't tell her sh** by the way. Are you guys open about showing pictures of your ex to curious new girls? i'm not open about that stuff. girls just want to find out whether or not you've been w/ drop dead gorgeous hotties or average plain janes... so they can compare. i think it's better though to be secretive about the actual pictures and to instead drop hints about how attractive they were (even though they might not have been attractive)... you'll gain value and mystery at the same time
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
new girls always want to see pictures of girls i've been w/
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
i think a girl demanding to see pictures of ex-gf's is ridiculous. I honestly can't say I've ever been directly asked this out of the blue sky, but i can almost guarantee any girl would be interested in a heart beat to see pictures of your "history". personally i think you said the right thing at the end there... don't show them anything, just be coy and tell them about the hotness of your ex-gf... I think we all know how much better or imaginations are anyway.
besides, secondly... no real advantage can be had from showing pictures anyway. if your ex was ugly as crap, the new girl will feel like she's reaching down to be with you... and if your ex was drop dead hot... this doesn't necessarily make your job hooking up with new girl any easier anyway, so what's the point?
besides, secondly... no real advantage can be had from showing pictures anyway. if your ex was ugly as crap, the new girl will feel like she's reaching down to be with you... and if your ex was drop dead hot... this doesn't necessarily make your job hooking up with new girl any easier anyway, so what's the point?
Silverback82
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just tell them you don't keep pictures
undesputable
Master Don Juan
by all means show them pictures if they were attractive...it will raise your value more than any other option. If they werent...well the one that wants to know is open to being deceived.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
Show it can only bring your value higher, now doesn't have to be some extreme pics. Just maybe you with your arms around 2 girls, a few with you, your homeboys and her. A few pics of you by yourself, etc. An you don't have to show off every girl just a few.
While this is an opportunity to "show off", it has no proven trackrecord of working in a positive way, regardless of how great your picture collection actually is. I had an awesome collection of pics w/ girls who were friends and lovers and used to show them off as just part of a "photo album" of pictures (that was intended to raise interest levels).
In some cases it worked for the moment, "Wow, she's really beautiful" the girl looking at the pictures would say. Sometimes the opposite effect though, where they'd pretend to lose interest really quickly and they'd get colder and less friendly.
In some cases it worked for the moment, "Wow, she's really beautiful" the girl looking at the pictures would say. Sometimes the opposite effect though, where they'd pretend to lose interest really quickly and they'd get colder and less friendly.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Out of curiosity, how often do you mention your past relationships?
OceanWindRider
Don Juan
Mystery recommends the photo album routine as the best routine ever.Charm said:
IT should not have hot girls all over the place, but rather you doing interesting stuff, being in cool places and maybe a couple of girls.
So I'd think it should work.
The reason if it does not work - because your current girl can become insecure about all the other hotties being with you.
She might think: OMG, he was with such beautiful girls before. He will dump me in a second.
So you have to calibrate who you show it to.
Also, you may want to say a lot of nice words about her beauty right after the hot girls pics. You've got the most amazing eyes. etc..
So she feels more secure about it.
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say "why, so you can stalk them with your jealousy?" or "what, afraid you won't measure up?"
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.