i noticed that ALL girls i start seeing will eventually ask to see a picture of ex-girlfriends/girls i've dated, etc. and they tend to press too after i deny their first requests. what's up w/ that? happens all the time and i'm sure many of you guys can relate. right now, this girl wants to see my ex's myspace profile; i didn't tell her sh** by the way. Are you guys open about showing pictures of your ex to curious new girls? i'm not open about that stuff. girls just want to find out whether or not you've been w/ drop dead gorgeous hotties or average plain janes... so they can compare. i think it's better though to be secretive about the actual pictures and to instead drop hints about how attractive they were (even though they might not have been attractive)... you'll gain value and mystery at the same time
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new girls always want to see pictures of girls i've been w/
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i think a girl demanding to see pictures of ex-gf's is ridiculous. I honestly can't say I've ever been directly asked this out of the blue sky, but i can almost guarantee any girl would be interested in a heart beat to see pictures of your "history". personally i think you said the right thing at the end there... don't show them anything, just be coy and tell them about the hotness of your ex-gf... I think we all know how much better or imaginations are anyway.
besides, secondly... no real advantage can be had from showing pictures anyway. if your ex was ugly as crap, the new girl will feel like she's reaching down to be with you... and if your ex was drop dead hot... this doesn't necessarily make your job hooking up with new girl any easier anyway, so what's the point?
besides, secondly... no real advantage can be had from showing pictures anyway. if your ex was ugly as crap, the new girl will feel like she's reaching down to be with you... and if your ex was drop dead hot... this doesn't necessarily make your job hooking up with new girl any easier anyway, so what's the point?
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just tell them you don't keep pictures
undesputable
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by all means show them pictures if they were attractive...it will raise your value more than any other option. If they werent...well the one that wants to know is open to being deceived.
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Distant Light
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Show it can only bring your value higher, now doesn't have to be some extreme pics. Just maybe you with your arms around 2 girls, a few with you, your homeboys and her. A few pics of you by yourself, etc. An you don't have to show off every girl just a few.
While this is an opportunity to "show off", it has no proven trackrecord of working in a positive way, regardless of how great your picture collection actually is. I had an awesome collection of pics w/ girls who were friends and lovers and used to show them off as just part of a "photo album" of pictures (that was intended to raise interest levels).
In some cases it worked for the moment, "Wow, she's really beautiful" the girl looking at the pictures would say. Sometimes the opposite effect though, where they'd pretend to lose interest really quickly and they'd get colder and less friendly.
In some cases it worked for the moment, "Wow, she's really beautiful" the girl looking at the pictures would say. Sometimes the opposite effect though, where they'd pretend to lose interest really quickly and they'd get colder and less friendly.
Francisco d'Anconia
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Out of curiosity, how often do you mention your past relationships?
OceanWindRider
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Mystery recommends the photo album routine as the best routine ever.Charm said:
IT should not have hot girls all over the place, but rather you doing interesting stuff, being in cool places and maybe a couple of girls.
So I'd think it should work.
The reason if it does not work - because your current girl can become insecure about all the other hotties being with you.
She might think: OMG, he was with such beautiful girls before. He will dump me in a second.
So you have to calibrate who you show it to.
Also, you may want to say a lot of nice words about her beauty right after the hot girls pics. You've got the most amazing eyes. etc..
So she feels more secure about it.
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say "why, so you can stalk them with your jealousy?" or "what, afraid you won't measure up?"
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