The girl im goin out wid curently for no reason at all has got it in her head that i fancy this over girl. This over girl i have never even spoken to as a mater of fact but she still insists that i fancy her. This is a problem as ive spent ages tryin to get wiv ma current girlfriend who ive bin only goin out wid now 4 a week and now she thinks 4 no reason i fancy some one else! This makes no sense to me and i dont see why it should. she keeps talking bout it and making jokes bout it even going as far as asking the girl if she fancies me!!! I wana no how i should handle this as ive told her i dont fancy her and i think its gona ultimately split us up which id rather avoid (surprisingly)!?! got any ideas as to what i could do to make her think different?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
New girlfriend thinks i fancy sum1 els!! WTF...
- Thread starter blaze69
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Royal Elite
Banned
You new girl is not looking to be a mother. She doesnt' want a guy who flips out everytime she expresses her opinion. You are acting like you need to bend over at her every wish. Just because she expressed it, that is her opinion which she is entitled too, that doenst mean you have to now take the defensive stance.Originally posted by blaze69
The girl im goin out wid curently for no reason at all has got it in her head that i fancy this over girl. This over girl i have never even spoken to as a mater of fact but she still insists that i fancy her. This is a problem as ive spent ages tryin to get wiv ma current girlfriend who ive bin only goin out wid now 4 a week and now she thinks 4 no reason i fancy some one else! This makes no sense to me and i dont see why it should. she keeps talking bout it and making jokes bout it even going as far as asking the girl if she fancies me!!! I wana no how i should handle this as ive told her i dont fancy her and i think its gona ultimately split us up which id rather avoid (surprisingly)!?! got any ideas as to what i could do to make her think different?
If she mentions it again, if you found her attractive say "yes she is a very attractive person". I tell my wife about girls I found attractive all the time, she even points them out and ask.
You girl wants a boyfriend not a son, stop backing down every time she expresses herself.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
First of all, learn how to ****ing spell. This isn't the streets, this is an internet message board. Ebonics will earn you no respect.
Secondly, be a man and stand your ground. You're allowed to fancy anything you want and so is she. Learn to accept it.
Secondly, be a man and stand your ground. You're allowed to fancy anything you want and so is she. Learn to accept it.
familyguyfan
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Yeah learn to type.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
typically when a girl says that you like another girl when you deny it she is either
1.) Right
2.) Insecure
Just My opinion
1.) Right
2.) Insecure
Just My opinion
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
she could be doing self-sabatoge and is insecure.
she's insecure, my girlfriend does that all the time. there's this one time that an acquantance had the hots for me, and my girlfriend just blew up on me and heck i wasn't EVEN interested in the girl. oh man, just totally makes me pissed off when she brings stuff like that and overanalyze the whole da.mn situation