"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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new girlfriend is using shaming tactics

soulforge

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do I need to watch my back with this chick?

Only been seeing her two months, the sex is great, also we have things in common and we have a good laugh..

But sometimes she comes across as bieng ****y and will say some things that I find rude or a little disrespectful..


At the weekend she said something to pizz me off.. so I called her on it.. told her to calm down, and think about how you talk to me..


She was stopping at my house that night, she gave me the cold shoulder for about an hour, then she told me, that I was bieng insensitive to her feelings.. and I should treat her better, as she is a guest in my house..

She tried her best to blame and shame me.. make me feel like it was all my fault, without accepting any blame...

This is the second time she has behaved like this.. used shaming tactics, to make me look and feel bad about myself..

So far I have treated this girl pretty good, cooked for her, taken her out etc etc.. treated her well.. but feels like nothing is good enough for her..


She is now acting in different and distant towards me on whatsapp...

Also i met this girl on POF, so my trust in her is somewhat minimal

I, m thinking I should start bieng very careful with this one.. two arguments in the space of 2 months is not good
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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soulforge said:
do I need to watch my back with this chick?

Only been seeing her two months, the sex is great, also we have things in common and we have a good laugh..

But sometimes she comes across as bieng ****y and will say some things that I find rude or a little disrespectful..


At the weekend she said something to pizz me off.. so I called her on it.. told her to calm down, and think about how you talk to me..


She was stopping at my house that night, she gave me the cold shoulder for about an hour, then she told me, that I was bieng insensitive to her feelings.. and I should treat her better, as she is a guest in my house..

She tried her best to blame and shame me.. make me feel like it was all my fault, without accepting any blame...

This is the second time she has behaved like this.. used shaming tactics, to make me look and feel bad about myself..

So far I have treated this girl pretty good, cooked for her, taken her out etc etc.. treated her well.. but feels like nothing is good enough for her..


She is now acting in different and distant towards me on whatsapp...

Also i met this girl on POF, so my trust in her is somewhat minimal

I, m thinking I should start bieng very careful with this one.. two arguments in the space of 2 months is not good
stop being a beta, don't put up with it. but you already did so it may be too late. get a new girl or have another girl on the side
 
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