"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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This is a difficult problem, how do I approach it:

Ok, first, the backround info. I met this girl about a week ago when she got hired at the same place I worked. I was C/F, and flirted with her and eventually got her phone number casually. She seemed to like me and my personality. From the first time she started working there, she is constantly staring at me and giving me lots of eye contact. She isn't even afraid when I stare back into her eyes, and she just smiles as I smile back during a prolonged stare ( like a game). I have kept mysterious ( I only called once during the week, and I passed her shyt test). She is very suggestive when I talk to her. Also, she returns my kino with her own kino and with a big smile/ giddyness, but she is a very shy person around most people and she will stand around and wait for me to initiate and end a conversation. Even when she leaves the front exit to work she turns all the way around to catch a parting glance. Lastly, she has been asking people about me, and asking questions like " Does he flirt with everybody?, etc." There is only ONE BIG PROBLEM : She has a freaking boyfriend. She didn't even mention him until I brought it up by asking if that was "her boyfriend on the phone" ( she was returning one of his calls as I was entering the employee lounge). She only got a weak " Yeah, I guess you could say that was my boyfriend sort of." Then, she doesn't bring him up the rest of the time, and she agrees to go with me to a movie tommorow night. Should I just try and make a move on her or should a wait it out? Youur opinions are GREATLY appreciated.


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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thanks very much.... not. I 'm not asking whether I should proceed or not ( because I am), but how I should proceed.
 
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She has a boyfriend eh? Time to find a girl that doesn't have one. Please don't be stupid and try to mess with that, unless you want to open Pandora's box.(snicker) First her BF will be real mad at you and will find away to let you know that even if it takes him all year. Oh and second do you really want a girl to become your girlfriend when she was willing to cheat on her last boyfriend to be with you. Honestly think about that if you believe for one second that "She just did that for me." Please, please do not come back here screaming in 2 months, if that, ranting about how some slut cheated on you.

Go and find else, there are plenty hot ones out there, the quicker you know that the happier you will be much, much sooner.

-Grey Fox
 
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Trust me, I have more than one chick, but I've never seen a chick with this must IL in me when having a bf. I'd appreciate it if I cold get some helpful feedback on HOW to approach this situation rather than a flat out... MOVE ON.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I THINK THEY ARE GIVING YOU HELPFUL FEEDBACK. For one she has a bf and two you work with her. Both can be big trouble. I dated someone I worked with and it wasnt that fun after it didnt work out. My advice is to stay away as well.

Regardless, if you must why don't you just play it cool. You know she has a boyfriend. If she is interested in you she will break it off with her bf.
 
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Dude, you play you pay. Let me tell you what yours truly did in all his brainiac glory:

I got involved with a married woman who I f***king worked with. Mind you, this little descent into hell is not over yet. I go to work every day, even after she saw fit to tell her husband just about everything that happened between us, and I live each agonizing moment at work watching as she tries to patch things up with her supposed "loser."

I hope your job is low paying and mindless; cause once the going gets tough, you are gonna have to bail. Unfortunately for me, my job is not easily replaceable, or I woulda been gone a long time ago. As it is, I'm stuck here. My option is to give up my good paying job and find something else which pays much less.

Just be mindful. I know you are charging into this little thing bullheaded and you aren't really listening to advice. I don't even know what you want us to say. You want to know how to approach this situation??? Just throw caution and logic to the wind cause you're riding on pure luck at this point ;)
 
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