"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well, many of you wondered how I would handle it when my relationship with the BPD girl ended (fairly mutually).

I met this girl yesterday and it was love at first sight. Her pupils were so big her eyes looked black. She is 20.5 and lives with her dad.

I think she has potential for some modeling - what do you think?

 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I think red flags everywhere and you are being a glutton for punishment at this point lol.
 

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She looks a bit messed up to me. Big pupils can also be caused by antipsychotic medication so it's not just a sign of arousal.

I think you should hit up some girls in their late twenties when their brains have fully developed. I think you are capable and deserving of someone with some real intellect and a bit of life experience.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She's attractive. Probably better looking than your last girl.

Why do you keep bothering with that "photofeeler" site, Neil?
Just as a benchmark.

Taking her out tonight for a test photo shoot.

I at least need photos of another girl to show my last girl when she comes back.
 

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I think red flags everywhere and you are being a glutton for punishment at this point lol.
How is that? I met a dream girl last night, rubbed her feet, got her to open up (strippers prequalify other strippers so you always advance), got her number, got her to write back (perhaps the hardest step in stripper game), got her to send a photo of herself, got her to initiate (this morning), got her to agree to a date, and got her to acknowledge that this isn't a pay-per-view relationship (the second hardest part of stripper game). Also, I always make them promise they won't do anything they don't want to do. During times when they are paid for photo shoots (a few hundred, never enough that you would expect anything, about what you'd blow if you went to the club and hung out for an hour) they are paid up front (a lot of guys hold back paying employees, hoping for a kiss, etc, but you should never do that). You mainly just want them to take a night off work and still be earning a living.
 

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So she thinks this is a photo shoot or a date? I am confused between your wording of the two.

Why arent you out finding chicks who have more life experiences and, sorry, but a better career? We both know how these young women in their early 20s are in relationships with anyone, especially older guys. Thats why I said you're a glutton for punishment.

You seem like a good dude who is looking for much more than a fling, so why arent you finding more "dateable" women? Not sure about this love at first sight bs. Its a model/stripper. Never met one that didnt have TONS of mental issues. Never heard any of my friends say they dated a stripper, fell in love and lived happily ever after.

On my scale of someone "fvckable", most strippers hold high value. On my scale of "dateable" women, strippers are the bottom feeders. Thre is a big difference and we both know it. Ticking time bombs man.
 

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Women vote with their feet - if she shows up, I don't care what she thinks of this.

That said, I'm good but I'm not THAT good. I met her 18 hours ago and she is 20 and I'm 46 and she is hotter than I ever was. But there was huge chemistry and I have faith she will cure me of my now ex girlfriend.

It took a whole year to find one girl with her energy. Photos coming soon.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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wait... it ended with your last lady?
 

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Ah. BigNeil has a new stripper. God is AWOL and all's normal with the world. I am a bit curious about the model thing. Is this a side business or just bait?
 

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Women vote with their feet - if she shows up, I don't care what she thinks of this.

That said, I'm good but I'm not THAT good. I met her 18 hours ago and she is 20 and I'm 46 and she is hotter than I ever was. But there was huge chemistry and I have faith she will cure me of my now ex girlfriend.

It took a whole year to find one girl with her energy. Photos coming soon.
I enjoy your content and this isn't a dig, but do you ever wonder if you have some insecurity issues?

I mean, you want a new girl to 'get over' your old girl. Do you always need to have a woman around to feel good about yourself? Do you think maybe there is an emptiness in you that you try to fill with these girls?

Like I say don't take this the wrong way..
 

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wait... it ended with your last lady?
For now, yes. Ironically it was when she got divorced that things all fell apart for us. I think she will return one day.
I enjoy your content and this isn't a dig, but do you ever wonder if you have some insecurity issues?

I mean, you want a new girl to 'get over' your old girl. Do you always need to have a woman around to feel good about yourself? Do you think maybe there is an emptiness in you that you try to fill with these girls?

Like I say don't take this the wrong way..
The only cure for a woman is another woman.

I was becoming too focused on one woman.

But this girl had way too many tattoos last night. God, she ruined herself. She is otherwise perfect.
 

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But this girl had way too many tattoos last night. God, she ruined herself. She is otherwise perfect.
That's too bad. How did that get past you, I thought that was the first question you usually ask? You'd think that when you date strippers there wouldn't be too many surprises physically.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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That's too bad. How did that get past you, I thought that was the first question you usually ask? You'd think that when you date strippers there wouldn't be too many surprises physically.
I went to see another girl and this girl was possessed. She just had a look in her eye that I could have my way with her so I figured I could put lace gloves on her to cover her hand tattoos. Sometimes we need to go with the girls that choose us.
 

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For now, yes. Ironically it was when she got divorced that things all fell apart for us. I think she will return one day.

The only cure for a woman is another woman.

I was becoming too focused on one woman.

But this girl had way too many tattoos last night. God, she ruined herself. She is otherwise perfect.
LMAO! What's wrong with this post people? "The only cure for a woman is another woman"? Well then, the only cure for a broken leg is another broken leg? And then add "I was becoming too focused on one woman"! LOL! Neil, with this post, you need a shrink, not a personal trainer!
 

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Hey Neil, I was recently in Texas a few weeks ago. I was in Austin and Houston. There are so many nice looking white girls in Texas, especially the Austin area. What are you doing with these tatted up girls? There's a mall in Austin I went to with a Cheesecake factory, packed with nice looking white girls. Rainey street bars on the weekends. Sh1t, you find hot girls at the whole foods in downtown Austin. Plenty of hot white girls. And they're friendly. They definitely liked me :)
 

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LMAO! What's wrong with this post people? "The only cure for a woman is another woman"?
I didn't write that one. I also didn't write "Women. Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em". Kronreiff, are you like 18?

Hey Neil, I was recently in Texas a few weeks ago. I was in Austin and Houston. There are so many nice looking white girls in Texas, especially the Austin area. What are you doing with these tatted up girls? There's a mall in Austin I went to with a Cheesecake factory, packed with nice looking white girls. Rainey street bars on the weekends. Sh1t, you find hot girls at the whole foods in downtown Austin. Plenty of hot white girls. And they're friendly. They definitely liked me :)
Austin has the most beautiful women in the US from my experience. And Houston has the best strippers. I just today realized I need to move back to Texas (now in Georgia).
 

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I didn't write that one. I also didn't write "Women. Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em". Kronreiff, are you like 18?


Austin has the most beautiful women in the US from my experience. And Houston has the best strippers. I just today realized I need to move back to Texas (now in Georgia).
Glad Im coming there in a months time for a little visit, you gotta recommend some strip joints for me ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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