jophil28
Master Don Juan
Dupe post.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
New GF seemed to good to be true.... than...
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Yes, the very same woman.Danger said:
After she had been to a few of those dinner parties with "arranged" dinner companions, she admitted that the same guy, Paul, was showing up regularly to be her escort.
So I dumped her.
Three weeks later she called and practically begged to meet with me to "talk" . Foolishly I did, and after 5 hours of listening to her in the coffee shop, I agreed to "try again" . (This was before my SS days)
WE went out to diinner that night ( to mark our reconciliation) and she dropped this mindfvck -
"Oh, when we were broken up I went to Cecilia's place and met Paul again for dinner.
After dinner we all got wasted- wine and MJ, and I passed out. Someone put me to bed, and in the morning I woke up with Paul.
I'm sure we didn't have sex but I am so glad that I can get really drunk and NOT just have sex with a man, automatically...."
WTF !
She told me that less than 12 hours after she initiated a reconciliation!
She made the point that this happened after I had broken off with her and we were apart.
I can't recall what I said in reply, but if I had known about BPD women back then I would have dropped her on the spot - permanently.
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RepM
Don Juan
Ok..... Skiing & partying was awesome 
Hooked up with some chicks. But no crazy ****. Was drinking ever afternoon. Great weak.
When I came back she was more happy than ever! She was unsecure about me partying there with all those girls.. She hoped I didnt found anyone (special) there and that we were over. Logical. She is more sure than ever about me/us. She bought some lingerie to celibrate my homecoming and was shy showing it on...
She cried later that night when she slept at my place, because she had a bad time during my absence but she didnt want to ruin my holiday with calling all the time. (green flag) She texted me 2/3 times a day with very good txt's. She was very relieved that I was finally home and liked her still a lot.
She wanted me to meet her family (second time ever), and said she loved me. I replied:' I like you a lot too
She has no crazy **** whatsoever. She isnt craving for attention. She wants to hang out with her GF's. She lets me do my business (sports, friend, study). So not clingy. She wants to sleep (stay for the night) with me all the time. Makes me nice breakfasts.. When we run into co-workers or friends they say she is shining (with a grin on her face)
She isnt overly emotional, hardly not jealous/ etc.
When a guy called her when Im away she tells me without hesitation. When someone txts her or calls her, she tells him that she is with her BF.
Of course we could say that she is a slut, she tries to catch me, she is 33 yrs old and no kids, that those are only words, etc.
I have to say that her actions are just as good if not better. I want a girl who is at least 30 yrs old with NO kids. I think I have to look very good but there some good (rare) ones.
Over the yrs im looking for bad traits/ habbits in every girl. Im almost paranoid. I think this one hasnt one so far..
Hooked up with some chicks. But no crazy ****. Was drinking ever afternoon. Great weak. When I came back she was more happy than ever! She was unsecure about me partying there with all those girls.. She hoped I didnt found anyone (special) there and that we were over. Logical. She is more sure than ever about me/us. She bought some lingerie to celibrate my homecoming and was shy showing it on...
She cried later that night when she slept at my place, because she had a bad time during my absence but she didnt want to ruin my holiday with calling all the time. (green flag) She texted me 2/3 times a day with very good txt's. She was very relieved that I was finally home and liked her still a lot.
She wanted me to meet her family (second time ever), and said she loved me. I replied:' I like you a lot too
She has no crazy **** whatsoever. She isnt craving for attention. She wants to hang out with her GF's. She lets me do my business (sports, friend, study). So not clingy. She wants to sleep (stay for the night) with me all the time. Makes me nice breakfasts.. When we run into co-workers or friends they say she is shining (with a grin on her face)
She isnt overly emotional, hardly not jealous/ etc.
When a guy called her when Im away she tells me without hesitation. When someone txts her or calls her, she tells him that she is with her BF.
Of course we could say that she is a slut, she tries to catch me, she is 33 yrs old and no kids, that those are only words, etc.
I have to say that her actions are just as good if not better. I want a girl who is at least 30 yrs old with NO kids. I think I have to look very good but there some good (rare) ones.
Over the yrs im looking for bad traits/ habbits in every girl. Im almost paranoid. I think this one hasnt one so far..
scorpio1138
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Well, thats good, but it could possibly be that you are heading up a peak with her.
See where you are at in 4 weeks. It might come crashing down.
I dealt with a clock-work pattern of this, I refer to as the roller-coaster, from a bpd woman.
I hope it does well for you, but be prepared...
See where you are at in 4 weeks. It might come crashing down.
I dealt with a clock-work pattern of this, I refer to as the roller-coaster, from a bpd woman.
I hope it does well for you, but be prepared...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Right on.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I think must women are used to dealing with guys who are clueless in their social/facebook circles so they can march whatever provisioning agenda they want when they feel like they've had their fill of drunken gangbangs. Remember sluts can be VERY good in bed...for an average AFC to meet a sexually available girl like this is like bread from heaven. You'd be surprised how many wealthy, fit dudes fall into the AFC mold and wife these girls simply because they spent their 20s building a business and are not really clued in to how women operate.