"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ambition

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Hey guys. I posted this a day or two ago in the HS forum, but it hasn't been answered and is really probably an appropriate question to ask anyone who has been through high school, not just highschoolers (thus, I'd ask that the MODS PLEASE DONT MOVE).
I've just moved, but anyone who tried to "change groups" in HS could answer this. I'm a junior, and its a large HS. I know already tons of people, and I think I'm pretty good socially (I've even done pretty well already with some fine girls, and I'd like to think that I'm fun and likeable) but I am completely clueless as to how to get into a group. It's so big that no one is going to invite you anywhere because they assume you are already doing something else.
That leaves it up to me, but I don't know the area and have no where to invite anyone, besides, I do not like to do anything that seems like "asking out" guys. I play lacrosse, but that doesn't start till spring. I'm doing clubs, but the above applies: After you get out of the club, you are stuck and people are going places without you. The only option seems like inviting myself places, but that doesn't seem cool. It's a very cliquish HS, but I think I'll do fine if I know what kids in my situation normally do (thats you if have have first hand experience or have observed).

So... should I
A) Wait, and I'll magically start getting invited places
B) Start inviting myself places
C) :confused: Assume that I'm not as good socially as I thought and need to work on basic social skills? :confused: (I do not think this is the case, but maybe I'm wrong)
D) Something I haven't thought of?

Edit: the previous post can be found here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=109776
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jackman

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Guys will always follow other guys that get the tang, so if you're doing fairly well with the ladies, use that as a lure to get a few guys to come hang with you to do whatever. Talk the ladies into bringing more ladies for your friends. Play them both off of each other.
 

VSTbeserk

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well for sure i would definatly not "magically wait to be invited to places". what clubs are you in?

do not like to do anything that seems like "asking out" guys.
you mean like for example like asking them to come over to your house to watch football on sunday?

do you play any fall sports at all? maybe you can't play high school sports but don't they have any local leagues where anyone can join a team?
 

Ambition

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Jackman:
If what you are saying is true (which I'm pretty sure it is) then that awesome, but I want to know how to do it (basics), not just what helps (advanced)

VSTbeserk:
The most notable club I'm in is forensics (huge time commitment) among others. I like the Sunday football idea, any others?
I'll look into local leagues, but thats more time out of a busy schedule. :eek:


What I guess I'm asking is what I can do to hang out with the people I want weekends without (looking like) I'm inviting myself (I sat at home most of the weekend).
 

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Ambition said:
Jackman:
If what you are saying is true (which I'm pretty sure it is) then that awesome, but I want to know how to do it (basics), not just what helps (advanced)
You begin by talking to the girl. You arrainge a time to hang out in general and ask her to bring a few friends along. Just avoid the whole one on one date situation and make it out to be a social thing. Once she agrees to try to get a few friends together, you mention in brief conversation with a few dudes that you need a few guys that might be interested. Simply tell them you're meeting some chick and a few of her frineds and that you need a few guys to come along.

My advice here is that you should at least be somewhat aware of what a certain girl's friends look like. You don't want to end up in a situation where the one, two or more guys you get to come on out with you are stuck with 200 pound fuglies while you're working a nice piece of ass.

If you can, add alchohol to the whole situation.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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