New college Bio girl buddy in LA

[Masculinity]

So, I just moved to LA from Boston and I'm attending a new college. The girls in LA take your breath away, but that's something I'm not going to address in this thread.

I met this beaaautiful brunette (9) to whom I said "Hey, what are you doing? come sit over here" and made my lab partner in the first day of class. After talking to her for a few weeks and teasing her in lab, going to lunch between classes, and getting to know eachother, I asked her straight up if she was single to which she started smiling and said "That's private info." Long story short, later that day I got her to tell me she's seeing someone. "I'm seeing someone, but it's nothing serious or exclusive; he doesn't want a relationship and neither do I," she said as I saw this little guy in my mind --->:cuss:

I'm kinda confused with her, but I know there is some interest at some level, but unsure if it's only on the friendship level. On the other hand, why would she specify the relationship isn't serious or monogamous without trying to hint something? What do you guys think?

 

[Speculator E]

She's giving you hints that she's looking. She's subtly telling you she wants you to steal her away from her boyfriend. It's basically an invitation. Just act like the boyfriend doesn't matter and ask her out.

 

[f283000]

I met this beaaautiful brunette (9) to whom I said "Hey, what are you doing? come sit over here" and made my lab partner in the first day of class. After talking to her for a few weeks and teasing her in lab, going to lunch between classes, and getting to know eachother, I asked her straight up if she was single to which she started smiling and said "That's private info." Long story short, later that day I got her to tell me she's seeing someone. "I'm seeing someone, but it's nothing serious or exclusive; he doesn't want a relationship and neither do I," she said as I saw this little guy in my mind --->:cuss:

Do you know how you ask a woman if she's single? BY ASKING HER OUT!

Don't ever ask a woman "are you single" that's just not the way to do it. It puts them in slut defense mode and they will usually lie and say they do have one. The natural way to do it is asking her out.

In fact she probably already gave you the answer by going to lunch with you for weeks like you said. A hb9 like you said who has a boyfriend is not going to be spending time every week with some guy that isn't her boyfriend unless she doesn't have one. In fact it probably made you look very naive in her eyes to be asking her this after she has willingly spent so much time with you. She probably thinks you're a noob

My only worry is that she may get tired of you not making a move on her after spending weeks getting to know her/going out to lunch with her etc. If I were you I would escalate and ask her out ASAP. That way you won't be wasting your time with a female that doesn't want you and you won't waste her time if she has been waiting for you to make a move for so long. If she's as hot as you say some other guy will end up making a move before you do sooner or later so you need to step up your game and make your move ASAP.

 

[Masculinity]

She's giving you hints that she's looking. She's subtly telling you she wants you to steal her away from her boyfriend. It's basically an invitation. Just act like the boyfriend doesn't matter and ask her out.

Ask her out as in invite her to hang out?

This is usually what I do when I call:

Me: Hey! Is dork there?
Hb: Giggling, yada yada yada
Me: Tease her a little more
Hb: Laughing again
Me: So I'm calling cause I'm going out to get tea and you should come. I don't really know you outside (wherever I met her) so we'd have to meet in a public, wide open place, where I can run if you turn out to be a psycho.
Her: Haha, (agrees)

Any other ideas?

 

[Masculinity]

Do you know how you ask a woman if she's single? BY ASKING HER OUT!

Don't ever ask a woman "are you single" that's just not the way to do it. It puts them in slut defense mode and they will usually lie and say they do have one. The natural way to do it is asking her out.

In fact she probably already gave you the answer by going to lunch with you for weeks like you said. A hb9 like you said who has a boyfriend is not going to be spending time every week with some guy that isn't her boyfriend unless she doesn't have one. In fact it probably made you look very naive in her eyes to be asking her this after she has willingly spent so much time with you. She probably thinks you're a noob

My only worry is that she may get tired of you not making a move on her after spending weeks getting to know her/going out to lunch with her etc. If I were you I would escalate and ask her out ASAP. That way you won't be wasting your time with a female that doesn't want you and you won't waste her time if she has been waiting for you to make a move for so long. If she's as hot as you say some other guy will end up making a move before you do sooner or later so you need to step up your game and make your move ASAP.

I agree with the naive part, on the back of my head I had the same feeling.
I'm gonna make a move and escalate, and if it turns out she want to be friends then cool, I'll have another friend and right back on the hunt for another hb! Thanks!