"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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New college Bio girl buddy in LA

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So, I just moved to LA from Boston and I'm attending a new college. The girls in LA take your breath away, but that's something I'm not going to address in this thread. ;)

I met this beaaautiful brunette (9) to whom I said "Hey, what are you doing? come sit over here" and made my lab partner in the first day of class.:up: After talking to her for a few weeks and teasing her in lab, going to lunch between classes, and getting to know eachother, I asked her straight up if she was single to which she started smiling and said "That's private info." Long story short, later that day I got her to tell me she's seeing someone. "I'm seeing someone, but it's nothing serious or exclusive; he doesn't want a relationship and neither do I," she said as I saw this little guy in my mind --->:cuss:

I'm kinda confused with her, but I know there is some interest at some level, but unsure if it's only on the friendship level. On the other hand, why would she specify the relationship isn't serious or monogamous without trying to hint something? What do you guys think?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She's giving you hints that she's looking. She's subtly telling you she wants you to steal her away from her boyfriend. It's basically an invitation. Just act like the boyfriend doesn't matter and ask her out.
 

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Robyn923b said:
I met this beaaautiful brunette (9) to whom I said "Hey, what are you doing? come sit over here" and made my lab partner in the first day of class.:up: After talking to her for a few weeks and teasing her in lab, going to lunch between classes, and getting to know eachother, I asked her straight up if she was single to which she started smiling and said "That's private info." Long story short, later that day I got her to tell me she's seeing someone. "I'm seeing someone, but it's nothing serious or exclusive; he doesn't want a relationship and neither do I," she said as I saw this little guy in my mind --->:cuss:
Do you know how you ask a woman if she's single? BY ASKING HER OUT!

Don't ever ask a woman "are you single" that's just not the way to do it. It puts them in slut defense mode and they will usually lie and say they do have one. The natural way to do it is asking her out.

In fact she probably already gave you the answer by going to lunch with you for weeks like you said. A hb9 like you said who has a boyfriend is not going to be spending time every week with some guy that isn't her boyfriend unless she doesn't have one. In fact it probably made you look very naive in her eyes to be asking her this after she has willingly spent so much time with you. She probably thinks you're a noob :D

My only worry is that she may get tired of you not making a move on her after spending weeks getting to know her/going out to lunch with her etc. If I were you I would escalate and ask her out ASAP. That way you won't be wasting your time with a female that doesn't want you and you won't waste her time if she has been waiting for you to make a move for so long. If she's as hot as you say some other guy will end up making a move before you do sooner or later so you need to step up your game and make your move ASAP.
 

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Speculator E said:
She's giving you hints that she's looking. She's subtly telling you she wants you to steal her away from her boyfriend. It's basically an invitation. Just act like the boyfriend doesn't matter and ask her out.
Ask her out as in invite her to hang out?

This is usually what I do when I call:

Me: Hey! Is dork there?
Hb: Giggling, yada yada yada
Me: Tease her a little more
Hb: Laughing again
Me: So I'm calling cause I'm going out to get tea and you should come. I don't really know you outside (wherever I met her) so we'd have to meet in a public, wide open place, where I can run if you turn out to be a psycho.
Her: Haha, (agrees)

Any other ideas?
 

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f283000 said:
Do you know how you ask a woman if she's single? BY ASKING HER OUT!

Don't ever ask a woman "are you single" that's just not the way to do it. It puts them in slut defense mode and they will usually lie and say they do have one. The natural way to do it is asking her out.

In fact she probably already gave you the answer by going to lunch with you for weeks like you said. A hb9 like you said who has a boyfriend is not going to be spending time every week with some guy that isn't her boyfriend unless she doesn't have one. In fact it probably made you look very naive in her eyes to be asking her this after she has willingly spent so much time with you. She probably thinks you're a noob :D

My only worry is that she may get tired of you not making a move on her after spending weeks getting to know her/going out to lunch with her etc. If I were you I would escalate and ask her out ASAP. That way you won't be wasting your time with a female that doesn't want you and you won't waste her time if she has been waiting for you to make a move for so long. If she's as hot as you say some other guy will end up making a move before you do sooner or later so you need to step up your game and make your move ASAP.

I agree with the naive part, on the back of my head I had the same feeling.
I'm gonna make a move and escalate, and if it turns out she want to be friends then cool, I'll have another friend and right back on the hunt for another hb! Thanks!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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