"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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New chick, new issues

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So my freind's girlfriend's freind said I was hot one night while i was at TGI Fridays. We never talked that night but she told my freind she wanted to hang out with me. So we never did but I finally got her number through her freind and took her out for sushi. This is one of the hottest chicks I've dated, if not the hottest (hb 8.5). So sushi is awkward because I'm all nervous, so conversation is not all that great. But somehow when dinner finishes, she invites me to watch a movie at her house. So I cruise up there, we start to get more and more comfortable with each other, start touching more, massaging, progressing well. So I go for the kiss and she wont open her mouth, it's like i was kissing her cheek. I say "is that how you kiss?" her: ya (jokingly). So a little later I leave, and she closes her eyes so i kiss her for a little, but her mouth is still shut. I say "you need to work on your kissing." her: no response.

Then last night, I watch a movie at her pad, and she makes a comment like "why did you brush your teeth? so you can open mouth kiss me?" me: I play it off like i was doing it for myself. For some reason I didn't go for a kiss during the date. But afterward kissed her for a little, and same deal, she doesn't open her mouth that much. I say "you're getting a little better." her: smiles

So my question is how do I get her to makeout with me fully? I think we are comfortable with each other because we are always touching each other/cuddling. My freind says she is kinda a slut, so I feel like I should be progressing faster. She's been texting me wanting to hang, so she's definitely down. I want to date this chick, not just **** her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mantis Toboggan

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LaDanian Tomlinson said:
So my question is how do I get her to makeout with me fully? I think we are comfortable with each other because we are always touching each other/cuddling. My freind says she is kinda a slut, so I feel like I should be progressing faster. She's been texting me wanting to hang, so she's definitely down. I want to date this chick, not just **** her.
This has to be one of the weirdest things I've ever read. My first piece of advice would be to stop dating 13 year olds.

Just kidding, but seriously...what kind of adult woman can't open her mouth to kiss a guy? And you're talking about "dating her, not f**king her". I can totally see why you hold her to such high standards...She sounds like a F'king wacko.

It's one thing to escalate from make-out to sex. It's a completely different thing to escalate from kissing to "open-mouth kissing"....
 
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I'm 22, she's 21. The only thing I could think of is that I called her out on it, so maybe she's trying to tease me and make me earn it. I have no idea...
 
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