"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

NEW Bootcamp Starting Friday 4/9 - Competition!

E

ENIGMA16

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2009
Messages
764
Reaction score
21
The deadline for participating in this bootcamp is Friday, April 9th. Please be sure to PM me before then if you are interested in participating!!!

Alright, so there's been some interest in starting up a new bootcamp recently, and since I'm only a week into my own personal one I figured I'd start over and we'll get a big group one going.

However, this bootcamp is going to be in a competition format. Because we are all competitive by our very nature, it should provide us all with an additional incentive to get out there and kick everyone else's ass!

Rules
The rules are simple. For each week of the boot camp you are given a certain amount of tasks to complete (i.e. "Greet 50 people"). At the end of the week I will tally up who has the most of that given task and post the results in this OP for each week. Then, I will give everyone points based on their standings. The point amounts will be entirely dependent upon how many participants we have in the game. I will also post the overall rankings in this post.

Also, the only complicated rule that I have is that if you go further than you are required by the task in terms of what you do, it will only count as a normal task. For example, if the weekly task is to greet 50 people, and you strike up a conversation and get a number, this will only count as one greeting. This is because I want to retain the bootcamp style and don't want a free-for-all where everyone just goes all out and does whatever, mainly so that those that are having a harder time don't fall too far behind.

Finally, remember that we're doing this based on the honor system, and that if you lie you're not only ruining the fun for everyone else but also deceiving yourself and not getting anywhere in terms of your own personal development. Plus, there is no real prize for winning aside from bragging rights.

If this takes off I might make a leaderboards thread where weekly records are recorded, but that's way in the future.

Here is the DJ Bootcamp.

Please PM me before Friday if you are interested in participating in this. Friday will be the official start of this bootcamp (Day 1 of Week 1).

Participants:
JLay87
crossboss
Cure
Blind_Fury
F!DELITY
Donnie Darko
HolyG
Scion
Forty0ztoFreedom
2crudedudes
ToBeTheBest
VDot
Hikapo
If Sixth I Will
Irs88
chese12
master-p
Exhumed
Tide
 
Last edited:

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

S

Scion

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 2, 2009
Messages
566
Reaction score
7
I'll try it. Although I may not be able to keep up with some of the guys in the later weeks.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

2

2crudedudes

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 10, 2009
Messages
283
Reaction score
6
I'm in
 
E

ENIGMA16

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2009
Messages
764
Reaction score
21
Awesome! I had absolutely no idea this many people were interested! This should be a lot of fun. :cool:
 
V

VDot

New Member
Joined
Mar 8, 2010
Messages
4
Reaction score
0
count me in...

I've be putting this off and i see a perfect opportunity to get started
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

A

Accension

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2009
Messages
288
Reaction score
20
Location
Australia, ?
I've finished this bootcamp twice now.
What do people hope to gain that they can't already get from a thriving social circle I wonder.

Honestly, why would you want to get a stranger's number when you could get the number of a girl you already know to be worth the time :cool:.
 
A

Accension

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2009
Messages
288
Reaction score
20
Location
Australia, ?
JLay87 said:
Awesome! I had absolutely no idea this many people were interested! This should be a lot of fun. :cool:
Click to expand...
Sign up a good number. 70% will be gone come week 2, 80% during week 2 and 90% by week 3 ;).
 
E

ENIGMA16

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2009
Messages
764
Reaction score
21
Accension said:
Sign up a good number. 70% will be gone come week 2, 80% during week 2 and 90% by week 3 .
Click to expand...
We'll see about that. I've seen a lot of these posters around before, which is a lot different compared to the "Boot Camps" I've seen in the past since I've joined this forum that were comprised mostly of new posters and Forum jockies. I think we'll get a decent amount of people past week 3 before we see a lot of people dropping off.

Plus I'm going to bug the hell out of everybody that falls behind or gets lazy. :cool:

I've finished this bootcamp twice now.
What do people hope to gain that they can't already get from a thriving social circle I wonder.

Honestly, why would you want to get a stranger's number when you could get the number of a girl you already know to be worth the time .
Click to expand...
Building up a thriving social circle requires the ability to talk to strangers and interact with people you don't know. Also, it's about more than getting the girl.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

I

Irs88

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 13, 2008
Messages
161
Reaction score
0
in!!!
 
M

master-p

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 7, 2010
Messages
48
Reaction score
0
Location
holland
my first day on the forum.
lets give it a shot and take a change to something hot:p
 
M

master-p

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 7, 2010
Messages
48
Reaction score
0
Location
holland
i cant pm

sign me in for the bootcamp plz

"way to go young brotha, getting paid getting paid"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top