1. Tell anyone you are insecure.
2. That you are ugly.
3. That you are stupid.
4. That you are not very good at what you do.
5. That you don't feel you are good enough.
I have a coworker in his early 20s who says at least one of these on nearly a daily basis. He's a wreck. He oscillates from trying to hard to be 'the man' to being a sad wrech begging for approval because he's not good enough. It's off putting. Completely off putting. He want's so badly to fit in, he doesn't fit in.
If you feel this way about yourself. Deal with the matter. If you are insecure, find out what it is you are insecure about and challenge it head on. Insecure with women? Talk to more of them. Insecure about your body. Go to the gym. But whining about it and doing nothing is not allowed in manhood. Children and women get to do that.
Think you are ugly? Get a new haircut. Dress nice. Tell yourself you are attractive. For a man attractive and being physcially beautiful to women are not the same thing. It's who a man is that women find attractive.
Think you are stupid? Well smarten up. Real stupid people think they know it all. Being smart enough to know that you don't know everything is a great starting place and puts you far above the ignorant people who think they got it all covered. But keep it to yourself and learn all you can.
Don't think you are good enough? Well you are. You beat out millions of other sperm just to get here. You started off a winner. Everyone feels that way some times. Everyone. Again. EVERYONE. It's what they DO about it that counts. If you give up, then you aren't good enough. If you assess your game plan, double your efforts and push through and try, then you are good enough.
Do something about this stuff, just don't blab it out there like my coworker. And at first I thought he just blabbed it to me because he liked me as an older brother type. But, I've come to find out that he blabs it to everyone one. Men and women...and he wonders why he's painfully single. This is why. He's built a reputation as a loser for himself. He did this to himself. Don't be like that. Shut your trap, fix your problems. If you can't fix it, at least don't show your hand. This is manhood.
2. That you are ugly.
3. That you are stupid.
4. That you are not very good at what you do.
5. That you don't feel you are good enough.
I have a coworker in his early 20s who says at least one of these on nearly a daily basis. He's a wreck. He oscillates from trying to hard to be 'the man' to being a sad wrech begging for approval because he's not good enough. It's off putting. Completely off putting. He want's so badly to fit in, he doesn't fit in.
If you feel this way about yourself. Deal with the matter. If you are insecure, find out what it is you are insecure about and challenge it head on. Insecure with women? Talk to more of them. Insecure about your body. Go to the gym. But whining about it and doing nothing is not allowed in manhood. Children and women get to do that.
Think you are ugly? Get a new haircut. Dress nice. Tell yourself you are attractive. For a man attractive and being physcially beautiful to women are not the same thing. It's who a man is that women find attractive.
Think you are stupid? Well smarten up. Real stupid people think they know it all. Being smart enough to know that you don't know everything is a great starting place and puts you far above the ignorant people who think they got it all covered. But keep it to yourself and learn all you can.
Don't think you are good enough? Well you are. You beat out millions of other sperm just to get here. You started off a winner. Everyone feels that way some times. Everyone. Again. EVERYONE. It's what they DO about it that counts. If you give up, then you aren't good enough. If you assess your game plan, double your efforts and push through and try, then you are good enough.
Do something about this stuff, just don't blab it out there like my coworker. And at first I thought he just blabbed it to me because he liked me as an older brother type. But, I've come to find out that he blabs it to everyone one. Men and women...and he wonders why he's painfully single. This is why. He's built a reputation as a loser for himself. He did this to himself. Don't be like that. Shut your trap, fix your problems. If you can't fix it, at least don't show your hand. This is manhood.
