"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Never get your hopes up after getting a number

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I am 28 (grad student) and recently got the number of this cute 21-22 yearold undergrad at my school.

To make a long story short, we spoke one other time before I asked for the number and things seemed well. She even said, "I always think of you when I am in the library (we first sort of met in the library last semester)

Well I called her 2X (left my phone # the second time) and she never called back.

She must of even told her friends about me since the friends she would sit with in the cafeteria would look at me sometimes. (if this meant anything good?)

What went wrong? Who knows............

I was a little nervous the night I asked for her number
I was not dressed that nice when I ran into her
The whole age difference thing?


I am a little dissapointed about this ordeal, but trust me I am not wallowing in self-pity as I am already over it.

My point is, women are flaky and seem to lose IL very quickly over something trivial. DON'T EVER GET YOUR HOPES UP WHEN YOU GET THE PHONE NUMBER OF A CHICK YOU LIKE AND WHO SEEMS TO HAVE HIGH IL. YOU CAN VERY WELL END UP DISSAPOINTED.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don't leave your number or messages. It's a **** test son, if she's worth it persue her.
 

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This has been asked and answered so many times around here, a person could recite it in their sleep! Look it up dude ...

Anyways, I digress ... lemme make this simple :

1)
Who gives a fvck about her friends and rather or not she called back, what matters is you and your game

2)
Stop calling girls so many times and if you ARE going to leave a message, please dear god make it brief and to the point

3)
Most girls who hang out in libraries are anti-social

4)
The age thing may be a problem with her (depends on the girl though) ... most h0s are looking for older and more mature men; however, most are 10x more stupid, flakey, and immature until they reach their mid-20's .... so y bother . Unless her IL is very high and you got game and can get some a$$ then get it on ...

5)
Get some balls man ! No need to be nervous ... just have to get comfortable around them

6)
NEXT
 

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Originally posted by mahon83050


I was a little nervous the night I asked for her number
I was not dressed that nice when I ran into her
The whole age difference thing?

By what you said before stating these 3 things, I can almost guarantee that it had nothing to do with it.

What is your rep at this school? If you're known as a womanizer of sorts, my guess is she's testing you to see how many times you'll call... just to make sure you're REALLY interested and that she won't wind up getting screwed. (pun intended)

She could be a genuine attention *****.

Listen to this:

I met this girl back in september. She was hot, former pagent winner... very outgoing etc... really into me. Or so it seemed. everything she said pointed to yes but everything she did pointed to no.

as much as we talked and kept in touch over the month that we were getting to know each other, we hung out maybe 3 times. I was busy and she was busy.

any dates we made were always broken by her and I told her after the 3rd time (3 strike rule, with me.... if the excuses are legit) that I'm out. Cya... bye.

last week she emailed me and acted as if we had talked last week. this was over 4 months ago. Hey hunny how are you? I've been sooo busy. I'm sorry we haven't had a chance to hang out.... bla bla bla... work has me tied up... bla bla..

she made it sound like the only reason we weren't getting together was that she was TOO BUSY, when in fact I'm the one who cut her off and never called her again.

I'm telling you, some women are retarded.

My reply to her email was this:

LOL


This chick was a genuine AH... nothing more.


you may have run into the same.
 

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Originally posted by TxCowboy
This has been asked and answered so many times around here, a person could recite it in their sleep! Look it up dude ...

Anyways, I digress ... lemme make this simple :

1)
Who gives a fvck about her friends and rather or not she called back, what matters is you and your game

2)
Stop calling girls so many times and if you ARE going to leave a message, please dear god make it brief and to the point

3)
Most girls who hang out in libraries are anti-social

4)
The age thing may be a problem with her (depends on the girl though) ... most h0s are looking for older and more mature men; however, most are 10x more stupid, flakey, and immature until they reach their mid-20's .... so y bother . Unless her IL is very high and you got game and can get some a$$ then get it on ...

5)
Get some balls man ! No need to be nervous ... just have to get comfortable around them

6)
NEXT
Well, a girl who does not call back in not interested IMO.

I only called her twice and both my messages were only around 8-10 seconds long.

THe way I see it, by me leaving my number, the ball is in her court.

When I see her in the cafeteria, I will not be rude or bitter but will not go out of my way to talk to her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Re: Re: Never get your hopes up after getting a number

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian

she made it sound like the only reason we weren't getting together was that she was TOO BUSY, when in fact I'm the one who cut her off and never called her again.

I'm telling you, some women are retarded.

My reply to her email was this:

LOL


This chick was a genuine AH... nothing more.


you may have run into the same. [/B]
I do the same ... in fact, most of the time, the sh1t they come up with when you get a response after asking them out is so stupid and pointless, its just funny as hell ... Ill laugh at em too

True story:
I asked a chick to grab a bite with me after class one day and she goes "no, i cant now, ive gotta go watch my 12:30 soap and dont wanna be late for it .... so , sorry, maybe some other time" .......... instead of shying off to her, I laughed in her face and told her to forget it and that she needs to get some better excuses for rejecting guys because that was Pathetic and that she's a waste of time if thats what she does every day... then just walked off ....
 

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Re: Re: Re: Never get your hopes up after getting a number

Originally posted by TxCowboy
I do the same ... in fact, most of the time, the sh1t they come up with when you get a response after asking them out is so stupid and pointless, its just funny as hell ... Ill laugh at em too

True story:
I asked a chick to grab a bite with me after class one day and she goes "no, i cant now, ive gotta go watch my 12:30 soap and dont wanna be late for it .... so , sorry, maybe some other time" .......... instead of shying off to her, I laughed in her face and told her to forget it and that she needs to get some better excuses for rejecting guys because that was Pathetic and that she's a waste of time if thats what she does every day... then just walked off ....

HAHA, Good for you dude.
 

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Re: Re: Re: Never get your hopes up after getting a number

I laughed in her face and told her to forget it and that she needs to get some better excuses[/B]
I would have cut it right there.
 

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Never get your hopes up after getting a number

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
I would have cut it right there.
Hehe ... I couldnt help but put in my full 2 cents worth to this chick :D ... I think she deserved it
 

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The only problem is, by going that far, you come across as having thought too much about it.

Well done, either way.

Mahon,

Let us know what happens with this girl. I'm curious.

I say be cordial and polite but focus your attention elswehere.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i'll admit that i too get worked up when i get a #, especially if she's spanking hot. but i do realize that the majority of times, nothing will happen when you get the #.
i've had a couple of experiences where i had strong interactions w/ girls and their interest level was obviously high. despite that and getting the #, i was never able to get a hold of 'em.
like mystery said, "phone numbers are a stairway to heaven"
 
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