"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Never Forget Racism

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Sardaukar

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I'm sure a lot of you would like to think that most racism are mere figments of the imagination. But I assure you, it's out there, it is insidious, and it must be combated.

http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tm...1/od_afp/afplifestylebritain_050211194735&e=2

I'd like to give an example of Associated French Press. This news agency strikes me as clearly racist in its articles that depicts Asians as "strange" and abandoned in favor of the White world.

The kind of spin that AFP produces can be found in practically no other foreign language agency.

For example, even if there was a white, French woman sleeping around the whole of Tokyo in a desperate bid to find her Asian prince, of whom some people surveyed say are more "loyal and caring" than their Western counterparts, such a story would simply not be deemed worthy enough to break the tabloids. The story would not make it because the racial pride of Western men would be at stake.

The fact that double standards are applied so freely might imply that our guardians of Kum Ba Yah!, and the people who present themselves as infallible, may not be as saintly as they claim to be.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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all they did was generalize that Asian men are more conservative and less willing to give-and-go than a white man. I completely agree with their generalization.

This story broke the news b/c its unusual. This is not a story about racism my friend. All this is, is you being jealous that the Asian woman finds white men more attractive.
 

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I love satire.

But you must be careful because most people will lash out at obvious targets.
 

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I won't disagree that white people can be subjected to racism.

To stop racism, you must recognise racism.

And a lot of people here only recognise racism when it happens to them.

When it happens to other people, it's just a joke isn't it? It's just a 'correct generalisation' isn't it?

Maybe when someone speaks up, you should listen rather than dismiss. Nobody is above racism, and being subjected to it can in itself create more racism.

End racism. Listen.
 

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You're joking right?

A single white woman searching for a suitor in Japan is not comparable to this situation, where many asian women are searching for white suitors.

Now if a significant amount of women went to Japan for asian males, I bet there would some short story on that too.

Stop grasping at straws.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I can't believe this thread...
 
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