"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Never fall for the past

Knight's Cross

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Awhile back I broke off a unhealthy relationship and at the time did something I recommend all guys do. WRITE down a list of all the dealbreakers. Keep that list around somewhere, thumbdrive, harddrive, on your fridge door, wherever you can get to it if you need it. Inevitably the boomerang returneth to where it was cast. We've all had the chick we cast out try and make a return to us. If you have the list, you've got easy reference as to why you cast her off in the first place. Don't have the list? Well you then "may" just remember the good times, and have forgotten all the transgressions. You in a moment of weakness may take the bit$h back. Got the list? Well you will laugh at her feable attempts to rekindle. Most post dating hooks I've had tossed at me by previous GF's were the lower status GF's anyway. The smarter ones knew better than to try to restart with me. Remember, she's probably just had some guy get tired of her crap, and is thumbing thru her contacts list looking for a esteem boost.
Do all DJ's a favor and NEVER feed her ego by giving attention to a past GF that you tossed. Sure if you see her in public, be cordial, but never respond to her attempts to reconnect, etc.
KC
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lateralus

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This is great advice! Many people tend to forget the things that made them actually decide to end the LTR. They end up following their penis, or are seduced by the ex-girlfriend doing extraordinary nice (they are good at it, when they want you back).

Don't fall for it! Making a list is a great practical idea to prevent a lot of ****.
 

scorpio1138

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I was thinking about my list the other day.

I could think of 5-8 things to put on the list.

Then I went over it again in my head and it became 12, then 15.

egads!
 

Scaramouche

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Dear KC,
I have in recent years become a believer that only Dogs go back to their Vomit.....I have never kept a record of the annoying features about any significant other,this goes for Guys and Corporate entities too.However on reflection it might well of saved me a lot of sleepless nights....It might also go both ways though KC,perhaps every now and again we might ask our valued customers for a little feedback?
 

Knight's Cross

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Scarmouche,
I know I've made mistakes, yet the women I'm talking about were not keepers. Sure, I log my own shortcomings and learn, what I'm talking about is making a dealbreaker list and keeping it for reference.
KC
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Knight's Cross

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Scarmouche,
I know I've made mistakes, yet the women I'm talking about were not keepers. Sure, I log my own shortcomings and learn, what I'm talking about is making a dealbreaker list and keeping it for reference.
KC
 
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