"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Never fall for the past

Knight's Cross

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Awhile back I broke off a unhealthy relationship and at the time did something I recommend all guys do. WRITE down a list of all the dealbreakers. Keep that list around somewhere, thumbdrive, harddrive, on your fridge door, wherever you can get to it if you need it. Inevitably the boomerang returneth to where it was cast. We've all had the chick we cast out try and make a return to us. If you have the list, you've got easy reference as to why you cast her off in the first place. Don't have the list? Well you then "may" just remember the good times, and have forgotten all the transgressions. You in a moment of weakness may take the bit$h back. Got the list? Well you will laugh at her feable attempts to rekindle. Most post dating hooks I've had tossed at me by previous GF's were the lower status GF's anyway. The smarter ones knew better than to try to restart with me. Remember, she's probably just had some guy get tired of her crap, and is thumbing thru her contacts list looking for a esteem boost.
Do all DJ's a favor and NEVER feed her ego by giving attention to a past GF that you tossed. Sure if you see her in public, be cordial, but never respond to her attempts to reconnect, etc.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is great advice! Many people tend to forget the things that made them actually decide to end the LTR. They end up following their penis, or are seduced by the ex-girlfriend doing extraordinary nice (they are good at it, when they want you back).

Don't fall for it! Making a list is a great practical idea to prevent a lot of ****.
 

scorpio1138

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I was thinking about my list the other day.

I could think of 5-8 things to put on the list.

Then I went over it again in my head and it became 12, then 15.

egads!
 

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Dear KC,
I have in recent years become a believer that only Dogs go back to their Vomit.....I have never kept a record of the annoying features about any significant other,this goes for Guys and Corporate entities too.However on reflection it might well of saved me a lot of sleepless nights....It might also go both ways though KC,perhaps every now and again we might ask our valued customers for a little feedback?
 

Knight's Cross

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Scarmouche,
I know I've made mistakes, yet the women I'm talking about were not keepers. Sure, I log my own shortcomings and learn, what I'm talking about is making a dealbreaker list and keeping it for reference.
KC
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Knight's Cross

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Scarmouche,
I know I've made mistakes, yet the women I'm talking about were not keepers. Sure, I log my own shortcomings and learn, what I'm talking about is making a dealbreaker list and keeping it for reference.
KC
 
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