"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Nervousness

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OK so i'll admit it i've been reading in to deep on this site and not keeping it the basics. ok heres the problem i have, few days ago I saw one of my female friends not attracted to her but woudldn't mind dating her or anything but when i was about to go talk to her my heart started pounding i ignored it and told myself to enjoy it.


Me:hey what you doing?
her:just waiting messin around here on the computer till my next class
me: (this is where things go down hill) i go to take her headphones off cuz i thought their was music but it was hooked uped to the computer and as i did that my hands were shakin taking it off and they were cold and red
her: she calls me out on it
me:*omg **** **** in my head* i just got back from outside (had been inside for abit)

at this point she touches my hand feels it tells me that its cool how it turns white when she touches i'm just like "ya their always like that" and then she compliments me on my hair how its nice and long and i should keep it that way (shes never complimented me on anything before). I tell her i have to run cuz my class starts soon gave her a hug put my hand on her shoulder and told her to have "fun". the whole time I had steady eye contact, and i was talking slowly

after that this is how i felt
-slightly embarrased
-wanted to put my head in a hole and leave it in their for a long time
-bang my head against something lol

after awhile of thinking about it all day in my last class
-kinda felt like now that i know that feeling i experienced it won't be as bad next time and eventually won't happen again.
-its going to take a lot of failures before success with similar situations

Now the thing that gets me is, do you guys think she picked up that i'm nervous towards her and that I like her or something? ( this is something i dont want lingering in her head when i'm around her) and fukin i know girls always talk to each other and she is going to tell her female friends about this that i probably most likely know >_< i'm not just typing this becuz of this one chick, But similar situations happen with other females. doing approaches where i live feels wierd since i feel like these girls going to tell this girl and its going to get around to everyone else i know. I think i'm just ****ing paranoid for no reason.

how many of you have had any similar situations like this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bro, you need to chill relax
 

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LA_Chico said:
bro, you need to chill relax
I know but i have things running in my head a millions mph only time i'm not like this is when i'm slightly buzzed or when i'm sleepy its hard to look at things in a slower prespecitve if you know what i'm saying.
 

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at big hollywood parties I get buzzed bro. also if u cant get buzzed at school. just act like you dont care about chicks. be like "who cares if you like me girl, im goin to chill wit u anyway"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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