"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Nervous on the phone

Huffman

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Hey guys, just set up a date 5min ago, but this time I really noticed how I was talking kind of fast, and nervously. Mind you, it wasn't THAT bad (and she accepted the date btw), but it left me kind of dumbfounded. Usually I'm pretty good on the phone, and I'm certainly not supernervous on dates.

Not so this time; do you guys have some tricks for staying collected on the phone?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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vatoloco

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This is what I used to do back in the day.

Again, just don't become a fvcking alcoholic. :up:
 

Naughty Ninja

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Play music at a low volume in the background, or take a picture of a comedian and or person you find unattractive from a magazine etc and look at it either to think funny thoughts and or calm yourself down and not think about the person on the lines looks as much.

Maybe write down some unique questions to ask them as well to get them talking more about themselves while you listen to key points that you can use for a next topic (if you plan on talking a bit) usually make phone calls brief.

Alcohol isn't that good as you may drink more than you planned if you are really nervous.
 

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I hate talking on the phone in general. I usually call when I'm outside, it helps to keep me at peace and I always keep in mind that the outcome doesn't matter, only what I learn from that conversation to do better on the next call.
 

Huffman

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Haha no booze :D

But calling outside is pretty good I think! You're naturally talking loud and slow because of the background noise. I don't talk for long anyways, so that's a good tip, thanks!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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