"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Nervous on the phone

Huffman

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Hey guys, just set up a date 5min ago, but this time I really noticed how I was talking kind of fast, and nervously. Mind you, it wasn't THAT bad (and she accepted the date btw), but it left me kind of dumbfounded. Usually I'm pretty good on the phone, and I'm certainly not supernervous on dates.

Not so this time; do you guys have some tricks for staying collected on the phone?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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vatoloco

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This is what I used to do back in the day.

Again, just don't become a fvcking alcoholic. :up:
 

Naughty Ninja

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Play music at a low volume in the background, or take a picture of a comedian and or person you find unattractive from a magazine etc and look at it either to think funny thoughts and or calm yourself down and not think about the person on the lines looks as much.

Maybe write down some unique questions to ask them as well to get them talking more about themselves while you listen to key points that you can use for a next topic (if you plan on talking a bit) usually make phone calls brief.

Alcohol isn't that good as you may drink more than you planned if you are really nervous.
 

Vanilla

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I hate talking on the phone in general. I usually call when I'm outside, it helps to keep me at peace and I always keep in mind that the outcome doesn't matter, only what I learn from that conversation to do better on the next call.
 

Huffman

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Haha no booze :D

But calling outside is pretty good I think! You're naturally talking loud and slow because of the background noise. I don't talk for long anyways, so that's a good tip, thanks!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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