Nervous DURING the approach?

[ElStud]

So say your in the approach already and you start getting nervous DURING the approach. Like today just a few minutes ago even, I was talking to this Kaara girl and I had no problem starting the chat or even getting interest from her, but dude I was hella nervous. This is uncommon for me, because usually I'm not nervous during the approach or I'm just nervous before the approach. Advice is appreciated.

 

[ElStud]

Come on guys, I really need advice on this situation.

 

[HandyAndy]

I dont think there is really any advice on how not be nervous DURING the interaction, think of her being bald? I heard that works lol

 

[Obsidian]

If it's happening, I can think of a few possible explanations:

1) You were tired.
2) She was not doing a good job of making you comfortable; for example, she may have been very untalkative, which put the entire strain of making conversation on you.
3) You had oneitis for her.
4) You tried too hard beforehand to think up something interesting to say.


If you're doing a good job of living in the moment, not thinking ahead for clever thinks to say, not trying to impress her, and not yearning desperately for some smooth way to #-close, then she probably just wasn't doing a good job of making you comfortable. Some girls just make guys nervous, and it's usually because they have poor conversation skills. The upside is that every other guy will have the same problem with her, so if you really want her for whatever reason, you will not be at a disadvantage.

 

[MikeYikes122]

^^^ Obsidian makes a lot of good points. I've always noticed if I'm tired as hell I suck at cold approaching. I also need to be in a good mood/have a clear head.

Are you nervous when you're talking to the chick? If so, don't force anything. If the she isn't being talkative with you, just politely move along. It's not a big deal.

 

[DonJuan11]

#3 of what Obsidan said sums it up.