"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Negs not for everyone.

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I don't like neghits. At all.

Even when I meet stuck up *****es, a few minutes with me and they are no longer stuck up. I just ignore it and they have no backup plan.

Otherwise, I've used neghits on "normal" chicks and it really is horrible if not used correctly. There are situations that are appropriate for negs like when she sits in the grass and her ass is green. Otherwise, constant neghits start hurting people. You'd be surprised how much it bothers most girls.

I find them counter productive and not my style.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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First of all, like Best friends? NAY already said, it depends on your neg hits. Second, they're not meant to be used constantly. Same as with kino, it helps but if you're constantly hugging the girl and holding her hand she'll try to stay away from you.
 

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On anyone... they are arn't my style.

I would classify neghit as something negative that you make a joke about in a humorous offensive manner.
 

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Neghits aren't made for people who can't pull them off. They are typically used on girls that are on that so called "pedastal" and think they can have anybody. The neghits are supposed to let them know that they aren't better than you and that they have flaws too.

You shouldn't use them on normal girls who aren't bitches or nice quiet girls, it's just counter-productive.

Also, ignoring them or turning your backs to them are neghits too since you aren't giving them the attention they expect from a guy. You start loosening up when they start loosening up, it's that simple. There shouldn't be a reason why you constantly go on about it till you hurt their feelings if they aren't still acting stuck up about themselves. It's just part of the game.

They work if used at the right time and on the right person. I know.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I use neg hits on normal girls alot and they love it. Though when I say neg hit, it means something that could be mean with somethign funny throwin in with it, and the person I am doing it to, will either try to pretend to be upset or just smile and laugh.
 

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I neg hit "normal" girls all the tiem and they usually love it. My Neg hits are something that starts mean that I throw humor in with and usually come off as playfull more then insulting.
 

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I know how to use them and pull them off very well but I'm just saying. It's not my style and once you start using them more and more, it starts getting to people. Not that I care... I'm just stating. Neghits - Not for everyone. Both ways.
 

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When chicks neg hit me, I neg hit back, and we jsut go back in forth (I find it fun) and they do to.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It just depends on who you are and who they are. Of course neghits aren't for everybody. Hell, being a challenge isn't for everybody either. But if you do them right, they work, and no bad comes from it. Neghits are supposed to be a fun way to introduce yourself and have fun, a whole relationship would never be based on them.

If a girl neghits you, that means they are making a humorous joke at you, and if you don't retaliate with your own neghit, you won't look so good. That is if you even cared. But if a girl does really neghit you, it would be because they are interested, and that's good. Neghits are for people you're interested in, they are not just abusive statements to make fun of you in a non-joking manner. Anyone who does that are just jackasses.

If your neghits are getting to people, you are either using them WAY too often, or you don't have the right delivery. You shouldn't even be using neghits on "normal" chicks, it's not necessary. But it's fun with the more flirty types and can start off a future relationship. It works.
 

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all i know is that theyre working beautifully on this chick i know thats a solid flat out 10!... i guess they are more for girls who are way hotter....
 

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Heres a couple ive used this chick was sitting right next to me i just happend to have some altoids in my pocket. I take them out she says what are those? I said breath mints you should try one she looks at me like (wtf?) and then smiles.

Or this other time i was readin the paper and she like just keeps starin at me thinking i cant see her, and im like stop lookin at me i know its hard not too. She goes yea it is.

Or this one ***** said i had long fingers and they looked like ET's from the movie, so i said yea they do especially this one and gave her the bird lol.
 

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Or this one ***** said i had long fingers and they looked like ET's from the movie, so i said yea they do especially this one and gave her the bird lol.
Hahahaha I have long fingers as well, I must remember this one.
 

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Well, IMOHO, a neg hit is to be used sparsely as otherwise they are devalued, the extra special girl realises it something you pull on everyone and remains on her pedastal.

For me, they are a way of bringing the girl down, not to my level, as naturally i am superior to them, but so that they no longer feel superior. Use them playfully, they are not intended to hurt people, unless thats what you want. If you feel that they are getting to people, then you are using them too much. A neg hit is good once in a while on an extra superior girl, but playful is better. I assume the people who say they are using them on 'normal' girls are just playfully teasing them. A neg hit for me is something vindictive and malicious that she does nto see coming. It is nto mmeant to be part of a slugging match, but a bolt out of the blue, to remind her that she is only human.

Although to be fair, everyone has their own style.

Roll with the punches
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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