"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Negging?

ENIGMA16

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I can never come up with good negs (unless I'm drunk, obviously); all the ones that I think up in my head sound like insults more than anything. I'm usually decent at banter but when it comes to girls you gotta neg to get (i.e. girls that are ****ing hot and know it) I can never come up with anything.

Actually, I have trouble opening these girls, too. I think it's because I'm a relatively good looking guy and usually direct open girls and go right for the number, but I don't think that'd work on girls like this, so I'll just be stumped and won't even try.

Ideas?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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f283000

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the search function is your friend. One i have started using recently which does its intended purpose (puts them on a lower level than myself, make em think i'm not all hot for them)

*when we are going our separate ways"

her: bye, see you tomorrow
me: see you later, don't forget to take a shower

pretty simple, you can also say "bye, take a shower" giving her a command instead of a suggestion. In her mind she'll be thinking (OMG did he just imply that I stink?) it will bug her and make her think. :)
 

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I think "negging" comes naturally when your in a relaxed state. I don't like the term "negging" because it implies using negativity to put down your target in order to gain favor, something that I don't like to do, and I contend as no different than bullying. A better term to put things in perspective is "teasing"..

Teasing is kind of like when your with your guy friends and you friend has a humungous zit on his nose and you go " HEY!! DUDE, THAT THING IS HUGE" in a joking mannor. You can do such things because your friends, and friends often playfully tease each other, which is the same thing your doing with females when you "NEG"..Building comfort.

Alot of guys proceed the playfull banter and enter into a onslaught of douchebaggery when it comes to negging which is why alot of people can't use it to its desired affect. But don't look for opportunities to put chicks down instead just playfully tease them like one of the guys...
Hope this helps ..
 

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I had to be drunk before do throw negs but now I actually feel more comfortable when Im sober or slightly buzzed. You neg like once or twice in the very beginning to get their attention. You can still tease here and there.
The other nigth I was out I was slightly buzzed at this bar.
This hb waitress was working and she took our drink orders. She was wearing like this retro looking jacket. When she came back:
Me: hey did you get the jacket at the thrift store?
Her: hhehe no, but my friend over there (another hb) is wearing a tshirt I got at the thrift store
Me: So you like to shop at thrift stores often or what?
Her: No hehe lbha blah blah

Then every chance she got she would sit next to me and talk then i would throw some more negs in. by the end of the night she was extremely flirty. Probably could of pushed it further but didnt. Get a b1tch gf at home so it wouldnt fly.

This best negs ive found to be the most successful is to pick out something they are wearing. You can say nice shirt i saw my 5 yr old niece wearing that the other day where did you get it? That one never fails they get all butt hurt and you can see them starting to come on.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Tyson420

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Neg girls that know they are the **** anyway so they'll take it as a joke.

Neg girls that are HB6 or below you'll probably just get a slap. These girls are insecure as hell.
 

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Tyson420 said:
Neg girls that know they are the **** anyway so they'll take it as a joke.

Neg girls that are HB6 or below you'll probably just get a slap. These girls are insecure as hell.

I don't think it has to much to do with how hot they actually are, just whether or not you are joking, or if your actually trying to cut them down and they can sense that. I got slapped in the face by an HB10 for telling her she had a giant nose.
 

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Personally the whole neg thing is getting played out. Thanks Mystery and all the other TV shows about PUA I think women are getting hip to the concept of using a neg to disarm them. Instead of disarming them they just know you're playing a formula. Now 99% of women are somewhat insecure so the neg will still have the same impact, but not the same result. She'll know you're trying to game her with the neg bull**** and she'll probably go f*ck her ex to boost her self esteem.

The neg is dead gentleman, humor trumps all.
 

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Von_S said:
Personally the whole neg thing is getting played out. Thanks Mystery and all the other TV shows about PUA I think women are getting hip to the concept of using a neg to disarm them. Instead of disarming them they just know you're playing a formula. Now 99% of women are somewhat insecure so the neg will still have the same impact, but not the same result. She'll know you're trying to game her with the neg bull**** and she'll probably go f*ck her ex to boost her self esteem.

The neg is dead gentleman, humor trumps all.
Shouldn't your negging be humorous? I don't see any game to negging with spite
 

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A girl will never know your gaming her unless youre using a neg from the show. Being playful and joking is part of the game and its natural too. Every time i neg it usually comes up right on the spot. You need negging. Or that just leaves compliments.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thinking about negs usually gives worse results. Basically, preplanning a conversation is a poor strategy. It's better to just be yourself. If you spend a lot of time engagging in conversation and putting yourself out there it becomes second nature and you can come up with **** on the spot very fast. You will also learn some good general strategies from other people.

Trying to come up with sound bites or a big list of preplanned lines is really counter productive since you;ll be searching in your head for something to say and not in the moment. Basically all of this is done because people do not believe their persoanlity would be good enough. The great irony is that the reason most people are not better received is because they hide too much of their personality.
 
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