"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Negging The Boss

mangotot

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Would you ever constantly neg or put down your boss (male and nothing sexual). And what would be the consequences if you did that?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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From Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power:

Law 1

Never Outshine the Master


Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
 

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Nothing wrong with banter and mucking around. But when its time to work, theres gotta be that level of respect, where when your boss tells you to do it....you just do it.
 

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I have a number of staff in my team, and I'll take the occasional friendly dig like anyone else, but you might want to remember a few tips (which apply to everyone really).

1. Check the mood of your boss first, he has demands you probably know nothing about, so be aware.
2. Be careful when playing to an audience, if the boss thinks you are undermining his position (especially in front of his boss), you'll be shut down real quick.
3. There's a fine line between negging and workplace bullying, and that line can change depending on point 1. You could be taking your first step into dismissal territory.
 

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It's a fine line between fvcking around and actually being mean, I wouldn't do it on my boss unless I was sure it would be received as the former. I've done that on occasion, but I'm pretty good at sub-communication. Anyways he's a good boss and deserves respect as that is what he gives. A leader must care about those he leads, same applies to us when leading women actually.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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