Negative Visualization

[cola]

You see a pretty girl sitting, reading at Starbucks. You want to approach but you get the jitters and legs just wont move in that direction.

Your thought process should be whats the worst that could happen?

• She says no thank you or not interested politely.
• She says she has a boyfriend
• She screams at you and makes a scene.

Thats it no big deal. Are any of those that bad? The worst is obviously she makes a scene but that would make her look crazier than you, so no harm done.

You are at the club and you have been chatting with a girl for a while and decide to go for the kiss but neck just wont follow to her lips. Negative Visualization

• She turns her head.
• She says no.
• She gets freaked out and makes a scene.

Are any of these that bad? She turns her head but doesn't leave atleast she knows your intentions now.
She says no, no big deal, she makes a scene.
Once more, if you keep calm, shrug your shoulders and smile she looks crazy not you.

This is the power of negative visualization. So when you get fear around a woman
Negatively Visualize the worst case scenarios. To gain strength and kill irrational fear.
This also works with job interviews and anything else that makes you nervous. Negative visualization softens the blow should anything go wrong.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Even better, dont visualuse anything at all, just do it. Think about it afterwards if you have to.
Zen baby

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

With due respect, this seems completely counter-productive. Positive visuals are far better and healthier mind set to go in to any situation with:

Coffee shop girl
-She's cute, I'mma talk to her
-She's reading a book, that's good convo material
-She's made an effort with her appearance to come to a coffee shop; this might mean she's single
-This is gonna go well

Club girl
-This rendezvous is going pretty well, I'mma kiss this girl
-She's been giving off serious indicators and looks like she wants to kiss me too
-I'll gradually encroach her personal space to test the water briefly
-This is gonna go well

Prepare with thoughts of success and you'll succeed more often.

 

[cola]

With due respect, this seems completely counter-productive. Positive visuals are far better and healthier mind set to go in to any situation with:

Coffee shop girl
-She's cute, I'mma talk to her
-She's reading a book, that's good convo material
-She's made an effort with her appearance to come to a coffee shop; this might mean she's single
-This is gonna go well

Club girl
-This rendezvous is going pretty well, I'mma kiss this girl
-She's been giving off serious indicators and looks like she wants to kiss me too
-I'll gradually encroach her personal space to test the water briefly
-This is gonna go well

Prepare with thoughts of success and you'll succeed more often.

I respectively disagree. Positive Visualizaton sets you up for disappointment. Imagine being a boxer going into a title fight and you are 100% certain you are going to win.You go into the match, get knocked out 1st round. You would be devastated. After months of visualizing an easy win.

Now imagine if you visualized losing but trained your hardest and won anyway.. You would be elated.
But these are just different sides of the same coin.

 

[Von]

With due respect, this seems completely counter-productive. Positive visuals are far better and healthier mind set to go in to any situation with:

Coffee shop girl
-She's cute, I'mma talk to her
-She's reading a book, that's good convo material
-She's made an effort with her appearance to come to a coffee shop; this might mean she's single
-This is gonna go well

Club girl
-This rendezvous is going pretty well, I'mma kiss this girl
-She's been giving off serious indicators and looks like she wants to kiss me too
-I'll gradually encroach her personal space to test the water briefly
-This is gonna go well

Prepare with thoughts of success and you'll succeed more often.

Visualization works in every field... .Positive visualization to reinforce your stronger self and confidence.

A guy on pick-up
A guy going to do his university exam
An athlete going a competition (olympics)
A boxer preparing his duel
A professionnal preparing his meeting

etc...

Visualization helps create a mind frame

 

[guru1000]

As a man matures, he looks at all decisions as business decisions on a risk/reward basis:

Example: If I approach the girl, what is the worse case scenario? She declines. But if she accepts, I might meet a great girl. Zero risk (except a temporarily bruised ego to the man with little inner confidence; no risk if you KNOW who you are), potentially great reward. Great investment: You approach.

Example: If I get married to this great girl, what is the worse case scenario? Divorce where she could potentially take up to 50% of assets (if a prenup is set aside) and spousal maintenance. But if it works out, I could have a great marriage. Sizable risk; sizable reward. Speculative investment. Any other options here? Yes, keep the girl out of wedlock ==> Little risk, sizable reward.

Example: If I invest into this stock derivative, what is the worse case scenario? I lose 100% of the investment. But if it works, I gain a 200% return. Can I comfortably afford to lose 100% of the investment? If not, speculative investment, don't invest.

Failure to make a great investment is a poor business decision.

If you make good business decisions with your life, you will find yourself in a very rewarding place as you get older.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I respectively disagree. Positive Visualizaton sets you up for disappointment. Imagine being a boxer going into a title fight and you are 100% certain you are going to win.You go into the match, get knocked out 1st round. You would be devastated. After months of visualizing an easy win.

Now imagine if you visualized losing but trained your hardest and won anyway.. You would be elated.
But these are just different sides of the same coin.

Dunno man. I see the logic, but this does seem to be a glass-half-empty kind of attitude.

Personally, I don't mind the odd failure so much anymore. We can't win them all. In fact no one ever learned anything without some failure along the way.

Thing is, some people see the brain as a transistor of sorts, by which universal vibrations are conducted and amplified. That being, brainwaves are actual things, electronic impulses, chemical gradation that can be objectively measured and that produce energy. Thereby, both negative and positive thoughts are amplified, contributing to our environmental outcomes.

There are many stories, even from famous people, about the Law of Attraction and manifestation. I myself can vouch for it; like, where my thoughts and life events have synchronised so closely, it couldn't possibly be coincidence.

Personally, I take it a step further than visualisation; rather, having an actual process of positive belief.

Let's take kissing a girl as an example:

-Make the necessary practical and logistical actions for preparation.
I am chewing gum, and have a good cologne on. I have been working my magic on the dance floor and showing her the silver side of my tongue.

-Formulate positive beliefs about a given situation; like, really to the point where you don't doubt what will happen.
This girl has been giving me serious indicators. I'm going for it.

-Then relinquish any mental 'control' I think I hold over the situation; safe in the knowledge I've prepared as best I can.
Go in for the kiss. I wanna kiss her, and I only have control over myself and certain aspects of my immediate environment. This is just the kind of kamikaze act we have to undertake daily, otherwise we'll never get anything we truly want.

Now, this doesn't happen overnight and takes a lot of practice and especially patience, like months and years, depending on the complexity of the situation in question.

It's true what @Von says; there are generally three types of people in the world - the highly successful, the moderately successful and the highly unsuccessful. I don't see there is any other reliable explanation for this variation, other than the type of mind set that each of the three groups is generally in.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Visualizing both the positive and negative are helpful.

When I was learning to overcome my approach anxiety I noticed that watching videos of failed approaches by "puas" helped me more than watching videos of successful approaches. Although watching the fail videos were hard at first, eventually I could visualze myself getting rejected and it wasn't as bad because it wasn't as unknown.

And lets face it we will all fail at one time or another and this fear of failure and the need to protect our ego is what ultimately drives us to not take action.

"Prepare for the worst hope for the best."

Then I have had times where things went unexpectedly good and I eject... so It is also important to visualize the good so you can be ready for that as well.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Perseverance. Work in spite of your will, sensations, emotions, etc. simply to see if you have the power to do so. This is how you know whether or not you are a slave to your passion. This is probably the greatest word for all 'noobs' to remember. Persevere. No matter how crappy you feel or how nervous you are, you keep going, just to spite those emotions, to just to revel in the discomfort to make yourself feel pleasure in discomfort. Persevere. Giovanni Cassanova once said (it's in the DJ Bible) to remember this phrase when faced with a hardship: "It's nothing I can't handle". This epitomizes what it means to persevere.

 

[Top Of The Game]

I respectively disagree. Positive Visualizaton sets you up for disappointment. Imagine being a boxer going into a title fight and you are 100% certain you are going to win.You go into the match, get knocked out 1st round. You would be devastated. After months of visualizing an easy win.

Now imagine if you visualized losing but trained your hardest and won anyway.. You would be elated.
But these are just different sides of the same coin.

I disagree with what you're doing here young blood!

Negative only produces the same. I get what you're doing but you need to study how the mind actually works.

Can you see a success coach like Anthony Robbins saying something like that? No.

What works for success still works. Positive produces positive.

You're mistake is that YOU are thinking of the worse outcomes from the jump. That is a problem within this community online here is you guys are so used to failure and struggle that you think negatively.