"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Neg Hitting?

Confident1

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Should guys play hard to get? Isn't that neg-hitting?

I ask this because, to be honest, neg-hitting is something that has always come naturally to me. I have done it for as long as I have interacted with girls.

Now I think I neg-hit too much. That a lot of girls are intimidated by me, also I can't tell when to compliment a girl now, as they always think I am being sarcastic.

Another thing I have come across since the beginning of the summer is now girls know I am joking. One girl HB (what ever the hell that means) 9 says to her friend (an 8) not to listen to what I say because I am always joking (in regards to some neg-hit I laid on the 8)

Also, if I am interested in the 9 I try to play her friend off of her. Like I will hit on the 8 to make the 9 jealous, bad?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should guys play hard to get? Isn't that neg-hitting?
lol no thats not neg-hittin ...a neg-hit is use to destroy or disarm a ***** shield*hot bades(hb) 9 or 10* and if ur gonna try to hit on the 8 to get that 9 jealous make sure u get the 8 use kino on her infront of the 9(hug, whatever works) make sure u get her tho otherwise the 9 would just think your some kind of attention male who*re. Date the 8, go out with her, get a some satisfaction out of her while your at it. Then the 8 would be tellin the 9 what a wonderful lover you are. Its so amazin how far alittle jealousy will go if u know how to use it.
 

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ok maybe it's not neg-hitting but I thought neg-hitting is like making fun of them, that is what I have gathered from the bible, in which case it seems to me that you are playing hard to get.
 

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"Yo Bit*h, If I ever see you with another man, I'll drop yo a$$."

Funny imo when I am in an altered state of mind, not so much he thing to say. Use your judgement. Some chicks just want to be fu*k-buddies and neg-hitting will slow the process down.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ok since this pertains to Neg Hitting and I did start this thread, I firgured I would ask another question.

So the latest quandry I have found myself in (I know I am incredibly self absorbed) is I constantly neg hit, like it is my way of communicating. The problem is I neg hit so much that I can get that spark when I first meet a girl (I think) but then I fall into the friendship category, never to return again. I know what I am doing (neg hitting wise) is right, but apparently I don't know WHEN??? to use it.

Thanks in advance.
 
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