"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Neg Hits Aren't Working...

Francisco d'Anconia

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Well, I guess that to be politically correct we can't call these guys @ssholes, they are now just '****y and funny.' :rolleyes:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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skinnydart

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i kept trying neg. hits so she would like me
lol, and are you sure you undertstand what neg hits are for?
Hi, i'm david, that shirt is fu cking ugly
that's not a neg hit, that's an insult.

It's a line that has to be carefully walked. For example she might have spent hours in front of the mirror that morning working with her hair, so for you to insult it without good reason is just plain mean.

I always have better luck focusing on something that may be a 2nd priority, you know, something less important like shoes, or nails.

And seeing the poor responce you had gotten from the first try, you should have laid off a while. There was still hope until you kept doing it.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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Originally posted by skinnydart
I always have better luck focusing on something that may be a 2nd priority, you know, something less important like shoes, or nails.
or better yet somthing that she couldnt care less about, such as her pencil case or somthing, because it will frustrate her, you are saying she cant even pick out a good pencil case so you are neg hitting her choice of pencil case yet you will not indult her because she does not really care about the actual pencil case to much where as if you neg hit about her hair, she could get upset.
 

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or better yet somthing that she couldnt care less about, such as her pencil case or somthing
Exactly, I mean if you want to just plain insult something, use something like "Damn, that's the ugliest pen I've every seen!" You'll probably get a playful slap or something, but If she gets upset at you for this, something's wrong with her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Fatality

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Originally posted by spaceMAN
Ok i have an example of neg hits not working on a girl, maybe i'm doing it wrong, or maybe these girls were just stupid. well, here goes :

1. I saw this chick at school, she was like a 8.5, and i walked up to her and said, "Hi, i'm david, *tells me her name* that shirt is fu cking ugly." And then she just gave me a weird look, and walked away! I said to her i was just kidding, and she was like, ok, whatever. She talked to me a little more, but i kept trying neg. hits so she would like me but they didn't work... like after that^ i told her that her hair looks like she just got out of a Hurricane. She got pissed.

Your advice is welcomed.
Well she will probably never wear that shirt again. Does that make you feel any better:D
 

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That's just plain rude what you did. I swear, soon there is gonna be another post about neg hits going "I tried to neg hit this girl when she said she enjoys sex, so I called her a f@cking piece of sh@t hor and told her to work in a brothel because that's all she's worth, she got offended and stormed off, why didn't my neg hit work?"
 

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heh

the fellas are right...u need to work on neg hits..from my experience..when I leanred about neg hits..I thought they were "insults"..so I kept insulting girl after girl with no result (although some girls are so down on their self esteem, they will respond to this)

but the majority of girls i tryed to "neg hit"/insult..walked away

They should be ONLY used for girls who think they are wayyy too hot...if a nice chick is willing to talk to you..u dont NEED to neg hit her!!!!! trust me! it will only turn her off
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by spaceMAN
Ok i have an example of neg hits not working on a girl, maybe i'm doing it wrong, or maybe these girls were just stupid. well, here goes :

1. I saw this chick at school, she was like a 8.5, and i walked up to her and said, "Hi, i'm david, *tells me her name* that shirt is fu cking ugly." And then she just gave me a weird look, and walked away! I said to her i was just kidding, and she was like, ok, whatever. She talked to me a little more, but i kept trying neg. hits so she would like me but they didn't work... like after that^ i told her that her hair looks like she just got out of a Hurricane. She got pissed.

Your advice is welcomed.
Want my advice kid?

Stop trying to Neg hit because you are failing miserably at it.

That was a pathetic attempt at a neg. Opening with a neg is just not a very good idea.
 

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Originally posted by BigWillyStyle
That's just plain rude what you did. I swear, soon there is gonna be another post about neg hits going "I tried to neg hit this girl when she said she enjoys sex, so I called her a f@cking piece of sh@t hor and told her to work in a brothel because that's all she's worth, she got offended and stormed off, why didn't my neg hit work?"
hahahahahaha
 
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