"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Neg hit if she's not stuck up?

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I met this girl who is not a total hottie but very cute probably an HB 7 or 8. She looks just like the original Marsha Brady. Very well educated, family oriented, wholesome type girl. The type of girl you marry. (she's never been married)

Here is the interesting part. She doesn't think she's pretty, she acts like she has no idea why a nice, charming guy like myself is spending time with her. So she's not stuck up in the least...

Do you guys think maybe she is one of those that you don't need to neg hit too much since she already has kind of a fragile self image? Like I said she's very sweet and down to earth so I really can't find a reason to neg hit...

Oh and she's really into me. Like i'm starting to worry that she might end up being a little on the clingy side...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sun Tzu

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A neg hit is only used for an 8 or 9 who acts superior to you in order to make her feel insecure.

The girl you're talking about is already insecure and therefore a neg would be counterproductive.

Dish out just enough ****y & funny to get the job done. No negs unless she cops a major attitude.
 
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You don't' HAVE to neg hit anyone.

The whole concept of a neg is to make you realize that teasing girls and giving them backhanded comments won't outcast you.

If you feel like a neg is appropriate, do it, if not, then don't.

You don't want to be going around looking at women and first thing popping up into your mind is "okay so how should i neg her"
 
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Standard PUA mantra: "If something works, keep doing it."
 
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I met this girl who is not a total hottie but very cute probably an HB 7 or 8. She looks just like the original Marsha Brady. Very well educated, family oriented, wholesome type girl. The type of girl you marry. (she's never been married)

Here is the interesting part. She doesn't think she's pretty, she acts like she has no idea why a nice, charming guy like myself is spending time with her. So she's not stuck up in the least...

Do you guys think maybe she is one of those that you don't need to neg hit too much since she already has kind of a fragile self image? Like I said she's very sweet and down to earth so I really can't find a reason to neg hit...

Oh and she's really into me. Like i'm starting to worry that she might end up being a little on the clingy side...

These types of girls you don't neg hit on.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok. Just wanted to make sure my thoughts were in line with everyone elses on this.:up:
 
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Do not neg insecure girls :up:, negs are made to make them more insecure, thrust me she will not be happy when you do...
 
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Sun Tzu said:
A neg hit is only used for an 8 or 9 who acts superior to you in order to make her feel insecure.

The girl you're talking about is already insecure and therefore a neg would be counterproductive.

Dish out just enough ****y & funny to get the job done. No negs unless she cops a major attitude.
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Good Post
 
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Alright, I have to ask why do negs seem to be so popular that guys consider using them on any women? Is it that it's easier for guys to interact with women in a manner that's similar to how we act with one another? Think about it, how often do you sling negs at your buds.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Think about it, how often do you sling negs at your buds.
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All the time!

I have used negs with great results for spoiled little immature hotties but this girl is different. I've been ****y and funny with her and teased her a little from the get go but I haven't done any neg hits, and don't plan to unless she starts acting spoiled :nono:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Neg hits are often misunderstood. Mystery initially came up with the theory of negs for SHB9 and 10s in CLUBS. It is for defeating b1tch shields, and these are on full force in clubs. You've said this chick is "not stuck up in the least" and has "a fragile self image". Using neg hits is the last thing you need to do - it will come across jerk-like, odd and risk making her dislike you.

I can't tell from your post whether you have made a move on this chick, but you should do that soon (try to kiss her and then escalate), to avoid falling into the friend zone.
 
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JJMcLure said:
I can't tell from your post whether you have made a move on this chick, but you should do that soon (try to kiss her and then escalate), to avoid falling into the friend zone.
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Already been done my man :up:
 
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