Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Needing tips or websites for being vague and ambiguous

Black Widow Void

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Through a lot of trial and error ,introspection and tips through this board, I've learned and improved a h*ll of a lot on my game. My biggest downfall though is being way too direct. I've never cared for ambiguity and therefor always strive to communicate with completeness. This always drops my desirability factor a few notches with women. Luckily, I usually (not always) have a few other areas in which works to my advantage.

Today, I got an e-mail from a woman that I've been seeing for quite some time. With her, I quickly noticed a few of my past mistakes. What I mean is... although not since my teens have I placed any woman on a pedestal, I probably do just as bad because I am quick to offer praise when their behavior is positive. As a repeated pattern, these resembling humble women end up getting full of themselves. I claim the problem because I now realize that manufactured the monster. Okay, I'm much better at that these days, but could still practice up.

Back to the original subject. I absolutely suck at being vague or ambiguous. Today though, I struck gold! Unfortunately, my intentional vagueness was a result of having time to think before replying to her e-mail. This drove her Frickin' nuts! As I've learned over the past couple of weeks with her, I'm now giving 20 percent and receiving 80 percent. If I could learn to master the art of being mysterious and vague, I know that my game would drastically improve more than it already has.

Any tips on how to better integrate this into my image or any free websites that you'd recommend?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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