"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey SoSuave,

Are there any ways to tell if a girl is interested in you non-verbally? Would be hella useful to me, because I often get girls randomly give me eye contact from across the room, and it'd be good to know whether they are into me or not. I mean across-the-room kind of things.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You cant rely on any ioi. You need to just assume she's interested. If you get eye contact, approach. If you DONT get eye contact, approach anyway.
 

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horaholic said:
You cant rely on any ioi. You need to just assume she's interested. If you get eye contact, approach. If you DONT get eye contact, approach anyway.
Agreed.

Although there are different forms of non-verbal contact,it's TOO EASY to get deceived by them and end up making a fool out of yourself.

There's the playing with the hair,smiling,laughing,her touching you,standing near you,etc. All of these are considered IOIs but she can also be doing these things when there's absolutely no interest at all.


For example,a girl can laugh because of the chemistry or attraction you make her feel,but she can also laugh simply because you said somthing funny.


The two ARE NOT the same.


Personally,there's only ONE IOI I care about and go by,and that's this...


When I ask a girl out and she says yes.


Other than that,I care nothing about her playing with her hair,or smiling,or any of those other supposed "IOIs".
 
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