"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Need your assesment concernning my self growth!!

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Ok so here it goes, , I'm 24 year old university student, I just joined this forum six month ago, at the time I was complete and utterly on the lowest level barrel, but since then lot has changed, I will list the changes I've made, you guys tell me if I'm on the right track or not!!

1) Before I could not make eye contact with anyone --> Now I can

2) Before I could not talk to anyone outside my class.
---> Now I talk to people in Bus, metro...

3) I would never make any kind of connection with any girl ---> Now I'm able to take one girl to coffee

4)Before I hated people, that hit on girls---> Now I admire them.

5) Before I could not talk about this subject---> Now this subject dominates my life.

6) Before I hated trying new things---> Now I look forward to trying new stuff

7) Before I wore clothes for myself ---> Now I dress to impress..

8) Before my hair style was my weakness--> now, after trying another style, it has become strong point.

9) Before I had no place to talk to girls--> Now that problem has been solved by joinning French and English conversation group.

10) Before I would never target girls---> Now, i'm always looking out for any girl out there.



The thing that I still can't do
1) I still can't go to clubs

2) I still can't ask girls number

3) I am too much career oriented.

4) I seem to be creating my own style --> I don't read books on intimacy, is that bad?

5) I still can't talk to white chics, somehow they seem more aware of the game and approach so I avoid them like plague.


Now, how bad are this flaws? is this just part of self growth? Should I just go with the flow?

I'm 6.0 in height, and I weight around 160 pound, So I think my physical attributes are my strong points, only back draw is that I'm from south Indian familly, so our expectations are different, and I'm learnning to go on the other side.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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These are big life changes you are undergoing man. It would be nice if this sort of thing could happen more quickly, but when it's a huge change, it seems to take a long time. So, all I can say to you, is you are on the right path. Just keep moving forward. Bon courage!
 

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thanks

for the comment....

Right now I just feel so much positive energy surrounding me, its like putting a kid in a candy shop....

I actually like my situation, as I know about most of the stuff, and I get to experiment new stuff at my best.

With age I have the wisdom and wits to impress girls, now only if I can make a game out of this...

I know I know I won't get ahead of my self, I still need plenty of self growth to do, but I feel like I'm headed in right direction!!
 
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