Im 15, and ive been going to the gym for 3 years, ive lost no more than 10 pounds, wtf....waste of money, How the hell can i slim down my belly and love handles? Ive tried everything and idk what to do with myself...
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'd bet a lot of money you haven't tried everything. Christ what is with this defeatist attitude that seems to be compounding everywhere these days.HandyAndy said:Im 15, and ive been going to the gym for 3 years, ive lost no more than 10 pounds, wtf....waste of money, How the hell can i slim down my belly and love handles? Ive tried everything and idk what to do with myself...
It's far better to by food that has no labels(no packaged food).Stuntmann said:What you eat should have labels.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
If you're doing intense exercise, gatorade is good.HandyAndy said:is gatorade considered crap?
*takes sip*
HandyAndy said:Ok well i have 3 1/2 hour football practice everyday and games on Fridays.
I try to eat healthy, i eat fruits and stuff and homemade food, i try to cut out the fast food as much as possible, i dont drink soda at all anymore, ive been getting home tired from practice at around 7 so i dont really have the time or energy to get some workouts in at the gym, but starting september im going to start this new workout plan for 6 weeks, but the thing is, i still have practice then, AND homework, i have alot of crap going on and its taking my workout time away.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well, your advice, while well-intended, will prove to be catabolic for many people. Now if you have a lot of bodyfat to lose and little muscle then it could work, but 10lbs per month (for how many months??) for someone who isn't obese is going to include muscle loss with the fat.Stuntmann said:Hmmm. I lost 0 lbs in muscle. Haven't I said it works for me very well?? I'm puzzled. Actually I find you nasty and disrespectful. I didn't know people from UK are like that.
HA!!!!!Kev07 said:Watch your crabs.
But im 270lbs, i dont need to gain anymore lol, i dont really care about numbers, i want to slim my belly down, and so far no help with that...any fat burning workouts or anything, i want to flatten it out some...Bible_Belt said:HA!!!!!
Ok well i have 3 1/2 hour football practice everyday and games on Fridays.
Most guys are trying to gain weight for football, you know?
Try cutting out sugar (crabs) and eating more raw vegetables. They are good if you dip them in a salad dressing you like. Also, unsweetened tea is a good zero-calorie drink, and you'll get a little energy from the caffeine. Green tea is better than black.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.