Im 15, and ive been going to the gym for 3 years, ive lost no more than 10 pounds, wtf....waste of money, How the hell can i slim down my belly and love handles? Ive tried everything and idk what to do with myself...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'd bet a lot of money you haven't tried everything. Christ what is with this defeatist attitude that seems to be compounding everywhere these days.HandyAndy said:Im 15, and ive been going to the gym for 3 years, ive lost no more than 10 pounds, wtf....waste of money, How the hell can i slim down my belly and love handles? Ive tried everything and idk what to do with myself...
It's far better to by food that has no labels(no packaged food).Stuntmann said:What you eat should have labels.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If you're doing intense exercise, gatorade is good.HandyAndy said:is gatorade considered crap?
*takes sip*
HandyAndy said:Ok well i have 3 1/2 hour football practice everyday and games on Fridays.
I try to eat healthy, i eat fruits and stuff and homemade food, i try to cut out the fast food as much as possible, i dont drink soda at all anymore, ive been getting home tired from practice at around 7 so i dont really have the time or energy to get some workouts in at the gym, but starting september im going to start this new workout plan for 6 weeks, but the thing is, i still have practice then, AND homework, i have alot of crap going on and its taking my workout time away.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well, your advice, while well-intended, will prove to be catabolic for many people. Now if you have a lot of bodyfat to lose and little muscle then it could work, but 10lbs per month (for how many months??) for someone who isn't obese is going to include muscle loss with the fat.Stuntmann said:Hmmm. I lost 0 lbs in muscle. Haven't I said it works for me very well?? I'm puzzled. Actually I find you nasty and disrespectful. I didn't know people from UK are like that.
HA!!!!!Kev07 said:Watch your crabs.
But im 270lbs, i dont need to gain anymore lol, i dont really care about numbers, i want to slim my belly down, and so far no help with that...any fat burning workouts or anything, i want to flatten it out some...Bible_Belt said:HA!!!!!
Ok well i have 3 1/2 hour football practice everyday and games on Fridays.
Most guys are trying to gain weight for football, you know?
Try cutting out sugar (crabs) and eating more raw vegetables. They are good if you dip them in a salad dressing you like. Also, unsweetened tea is a good zero-calorie drink, and you'll get a little energy from the caffeine. Green tea is better than black.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.