"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need to quit cursing, cussing, and swearing.

WaRpEd

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Ok bros, help me out here.

I would very much so like to quit cursing. I feel it degrades my personality and its leaking into places it shouldn't be leaking into. :down: I it's a big hindrance in many parts of my life, and I would very much so at least like to cut back. Also I feel that when (never say IF) I do this it will help me work on many other aspects (such as thinking before I talk, overall classiness, and what have you)

So I need some ideas here. I'll try putting a selected amount money in a jar, but I know I'll break down and use it for gas or laundry like it would have been used for anyways. My mom's not here to back-hand me and my roommates would curse me out if I asked (in a funny way, lol).

Any Ideas? Suggestions? Comments? Constructive criticism? Any one want to to quit bad-mothin' with me?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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Just be conscious of it and you'll cut back. I've been trying to do the same thing, as I have the mouth of a sailor when I'm having a bad day. Now I only curse in front of my closer friends an try and avoid swearing or showing anything but upbeat positive emotions when I'm around the general public. At least in this way I can still get my cursing and swearing out of the way, amongst people who don't care. I try not to swear much in front of my girl, either.

A damn or a sh!t ain't bad, but when you start droppin f-bombs and other profanities in every phrase, it sounds very low class
 

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Every time you swear, $5 goes into a jar. That money goes to a charity or church. Whatever you choose. It's a win win situation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dopexile

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Cursing isn't a bad thing... it just depends on the audience and the context. If you're telling a story to some people it can make things a lot more interesting because of the shock value and the political incorrectness. But if you're going up to approach women... don't cuss... even though they probably curse like sailors.
 

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It is the perfect word isn't it.

I'm dealing with this issue too. I swear a lot, but am trying to cut back haha.

Funny, I've gotten to a point where I'm happy with my pickup skills, happy with my body, happy with my education, etc. But I still have trouble being polite.

Put a jar in your room and every time you swear pop a quarter in there. It's not so much to take your money away, just to give true weight to your words.
 

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What the **** is wrong with you?
 

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Tell your friends that if you cuss it's okay for them to kick you.

I am not joking. In a cople of weeks you'll be fine or in the hospital.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've always tried to be consious about it, but simply thinking to myself about it isn't going to work, everybody has a different learning process (especially me)

But anyways I've put a rubber band around my wrist (my V-Chip as I call it) and everytime I drop one I pop the...you know (lol)...out of myself. I've noticed a distinct decrease in how many times I've slipped up. Because I'm thinking about it, physically doing something about it, and a small sting everytime simply reminds me what I'm trying to do...though I think I need a stronger rubber band.
 
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