Need to please, daygame

[Israel]

I'm new here, can someone tell me if the need to please is bad for the daygame and if there is any way to control that

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I'm new here, can someone tell me if the need to please is bad for the daygame and if there is any way to control that

Welcome to the forum and manosphere community.

To better help you, we need more context and also elaborate on what "the need to please" means. Give us a few examples if it helps.

Generally speaking, pleasing in any context, shape or form is degrading. It puts somebody above you, and as the word implies, it is not genuine.

Modern Man Advice

 

[SargeMaximus]

If I’m right to assume you mean you are a people pleaser or want to please women, I would say from my own experience that yes. Being selfish is much better. But it can’t be forced. Gotta be genuine.

 

[Israel]

an example is me. When I go to do daygame, I have many thoughts such as, I have to raise my head, my voice, look into her eyes, smile, etc ,. My point is that I think as much about how I should see myself in his eyes. I am looking for the best way to appear attractive. in the end I want her to accept me as a candidate. now I realized something else.
so to speak. I am Latino, in my country, it is not the same to do daygame as in Spain. people here are more religious, they hide a lot from the word sex. I know that I am socially conditioned to act like the majority. When I get close to doing daygame, direct, the first thing that comes to mind is that I'm going to be an as..ole, that's frowned upon here, but there is no other way, I have to be an as..ole. What do you think?.
PS: I used the google translator, I don't speak English very well. Give me some prayer this incomprehensible to fix it.

 

[Israel]

If I’m right to assume you mean you are a people pleaser or want to please women, I would say from my own experience that yes. Being selfish is much better. But it can’t be forced. Gotta be genuine.

How to be genuinely selfish? What trick do you use?

 

[SargeMaximus]

How to be genuinely selfish? What trick do you use?

I don’t really use a trick. I just put my desires and needs before other people. If there is a trick I guess what I do is keep in mind that other people aren’t helpless children so they can take care of themselves

 

[Plinco]

How to be genuinely selfish? What trick do you use?

Be careful how you word your own thought process. Don't put yourself down, especially unnecessarily; criticize yourself when it's warranted. It is important to know what your long term goals are in order to identify your interests, and then use that to measure if you are acting selfishly or not.