speed dawg
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Suggestions? Right now I'm basically going carb-free after breakfast, drinking lots of water. Exercise daily. Any tricks/supplements any of you have heard of out there?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Need to drop 10 lbs. in 18 days.....
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What kind of exercise are you doing? If it's cardio, there's no way you'll keep this up while carb-free. I for one need carbs around cardio workouts otherwise I struggle with motivation and feel sluggish on the workouts.
My trick was alternate-day calorie restriction. One day, you exercise (running, in my case) and eat maintenance amount of calories, the next day, you eat (maintenance - 400) or so and don't exercise. Make sure you calculate the maintenance amount right, it's not the same for both days as you have to factor in exercise. If you don't know what "maintenance" refers to, google "BMR calculator" and go to the first one you see. Usually they'll explain how to adapt the calculation to get the maintenance amount.
And eat healthy: lean meats, carbs from veggies, etc etc.
My trick was alternate-day calorie restriction. One day, you exercise (running, in my case) and eat maintenance amount of calories, the next day, you eat (maintenance - 400) or so and don't exercise. Make sure you calculate the maintenance amount right, it's not the same for both days as you have to factor in exercise. If you don't know what "maintenance" refers to, google "BMR calculator" and go to the first one you see. Usually they'll explain how to adapt the calculation to get the maintenance amount.
And eat healthy: lean meats, carbs from veggies, etc etc.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
Yeah I meant I was going free on 'white' carbs, like potatoes and bread. I still eat a little brown rice at breakfast and I load up on vegetables (need to quit cooking them with bacon grease I guess 
).
I've heard alot of bodybuilders got solid results with that calorie approach you mentioned, I may try it, although I'm not a big calorie counter myself.
).I've heard alot of bodybuilders got solid results with that calorie approach you mentioned, I may try it, although I'm not a big calorie counter myself.
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why do you need to drop 10 pounds so quickly?
If its for sport water cut before the weight in. If it is an aesthetic thing you need to be careful since fast cutting = muscle loss.
If its for sport water cut before the weight in. If it is an aesthetic thing you need to be careful since fast cutting = muscle loss.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
speed dawg
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Actually it's for my wedding, and I don't want to have a double chin.
Either way, that wasn't the question.
Well, yeah I did, but I was just lazy.
Either way, that wasn't the question.
speed dawg said:
your not going to lose 10lbs of fat in 18 days. Depending on what your weight is now you can lose a lot of bloat/fluid/some fat in 18 days if everything is set up right but instead of trying to make this a quick fix, why not just make a lifestyle change.
speed dawg
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Oh I know. I like to eat and drink too much. I've been in shape before, and I know a thing or two about bodybuilding. I never have been very good at diet. I've tried, but never successful.
I've only really lost weight when I had the time to exercise it off. Of course, I was single, had nothing to do, no injuries, etc. Times have changed, and stress had taken it's toll on my time and body.
I'm really looking for dieting tactics. I'm planning on eating one meat and steamed vegetables, no salt or liquid calories. Maybe some oatmeal or brown rice in the mornings, salad for lunch with no dressing. And never get all the way full, which I LOVE to do, by the way.
I've only really lost weight when I had the time to exercise it off. Of course, I was single, had nothing to do, no injuries, etc. Times have changed, and stress had taken it's toll on my time and body.
I'm really looking for dieting tactics. I'm planning on eating one meat and steamed vegetables, no salt or liquid calories. Maybe some oatmeal or brown rice in the mornings, salad for lunch with no dressing. And never get all the way full, which I LOVE to do, by the way.
first step, keep an accurate diet log. you may be stunned to see what you really eat. i resisted doing this for a long time, and when I finally did, it was very revealing.
and effort et al are right, you're going to have to accept a double chin in your wedding photos. sorry. make this motivation to make a permanent change.
if you really believe that getting exercise requires time, try this:
http://www.fourmilab.ch/hackdiet/e4/exercise.html
nothing fancy, just a way to ramp up a calisthenics program, max 15 minutes a day. feel free to move up the ladder faster than he recommends if you're in any kind of shape for a 27 y.o. (and sounds like you are). and let me know how it goes, esp. in terms of keeping you motivated.
and effort et al are right, you're going to have to accept a double chin in your wedding photos. sorry. make this motivation to make a permanent change.
if you really believe that getting exercise requires time, try this:
http://www.fourmilab.ch/hackdiet/e4/exercise.html
nothing fancy, just a way to ramp up a calisthenics program, max 15 minutes a day. feel free to move up the ladder faster than he recommends if you're in any kind of shape for a 27 y.o. (and sounds like you are). and let me know how it goes, esp. in terms of keeping you motivated.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If you´re going low-carb, then you shouldn´t exercise too hard, it will tear on your muscles, not the fat deposits. Walking before breakfast is a great way of losing weight even if yo´re not doing intense fitness training. You´ll burn more fat then. Walk before breakfast, thirty minutes. I did that when I ate low carb and it was a great combination.
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The only way to lose weight quickly is quick walking on a treadmill @ 6 km/h for 25-30 minutes with a rucksack and a 10kg weight. If you get a steep enough gradient (say 6%) you will lose weight quickly- though you should take a vitamin supplement and not drink at the same time.
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Cutting back on carbs was an excellent idea. Heres a site that I've been reading lately that talks alot about this subject.
It focuses mostly on the paleo diet and exercising habits that mimic that of hunter gatherers.
http://www.arthurdevany.com/
It focuses mostly on the paleo diet and exercising habits that mimic that of hunter gatherers.
http://www.arthurdevany.com/
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Yes dropping 10 pounds in 18 days is a little extreme.Chillisauce said:
I don't think short fasts while remaining active cause muscle loss. Short fasts just burn stored fat, leaving fast twitch muscles over time.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.