Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Need to call for a date.. Im out of the loop

SpazzAttackk

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Alright so I met a girl at a party, we made out and nothing more. I added her on facebook, and told her I wanted to get to know her better over a coffee and a skating session downtown in good ol New York city. I was complimented with my ability to properly ask girls out and my straightforwardness. Now I have to call her. Its been about 4 days since I got the number.. I was going to do it yesterday but it was all you can eat wings night at my local restaurant and I left my phone at home. It was 11 by the time I got back, being way too late to call.

What the **** do I do? Ive been single for so long I completely forgot how to approach this matter. I dont know what to say over the phone, in fact im actually SCARED to call her. Theres something about phones that put me off.

Did I mention? I dont know how to skate?? I figured I could use this to my advantage though and have her teach me how, and make her laugh when she looks back at the date.

Im not tripping balls over this situation though, I just wanna know how to act over the phone. Im gonna need that skill in future dates with other women
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bukkake

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Just call her right after you read this. Don't think about what you are going to say, just make the call. You need to have a mindset of knowing this girl for years and you have called her a thousand times before.

The more you put it off, the harder it will be to call her. You will blow it with her if you don't call, so what do you have to lose?

Now phucking call her!
 

VladPatton

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If you feel uneasy about the call and you are worried about things that badly, text it in. Make it quick and concise and tell her the time and day you plan on going ice skating. Keep it very short. No reply = you try again in a few days. No replies after that = she's not interested, that means you Next her. You know the deal.

Good luck.

PS: After the first date, your fear of calling should be no longer. No more texting after that, it's not needed.
 

SpazzAttackk

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I just called, about 20 mins ago. Went to voicemail. I thought id facebook message her because the holidays were coming to an end. She told me shes working this weekend and that she will let me know when shes free

Every time a woman has said those words to me she never gets back, and obviously Im not gonna message her again. Thats just too needy looking.

I dont get it, she was so ****ing excited and then she just flakes. Whatever, women are strange creatures
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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