Need texting advice for a girl I met Saturday night

[Funlol]

I normally wouldn't care as I have more girls than I know what to do with... But this one was hot.. 5'10 , and 18 years old (I'm only 24 so age isn't a big problem). My text to her that she didn't respond to was this - "Home safe! Nice meeting u this evening . Enjoy ur nite...lets meet up later this week for a jog or something. How's the rest of ur night going? What ya doing?
-jake"

Weak text I know.. But I was drunk and also high (not thinking straight)
one more piece of information - I got her number by claiming I'm
having a party next weekend and that she should stop by.. Of corse there is no party planned

now. It's been two days since that text... So I feel like it's ok to contact her again without seeming desperate... But I want an amazing text that will guarantee a response.. Something humorous. Any suggestions?

(and I'm sure she gave me a real number)

 

[Tiguere]

Jesus christ lol that text lol this is beyond repair.

 

[Falcon25]

holy **** that's bad.

 

[Romjuan]

that text reminded me of mikey from swingers. as for your text to her how about something like, " sorry, totally forgot what you look like when i met you, you have both of your eyebrows right?"

 

[Jariel]

I don't think the text was that bad. If her interest was high and she wanted to see you again, a text like that would not kill her attraction.

The bad news is that she's probably got cold feet or reconsidered meeting you. Don't worry about the reasons, she might have a boyfriend, might not be ready for anything...well, who knows. That's just the way women are. Same thing happened to me recently.

Best thing you can do is just move on. If she's interested she knows your number and will get back to you. Any action, any texting her or trying to call her now will only ruin your chances for good.

 

[kingsam]

I got her number by claiming I'm
having a party next weekend and that she should stop by.. Of corse there is no party planned

you got her number by a lie ... smooth going!
and as a result of this you have no way of knowing if she has any interest in you (or the sistuation for that matter - has she a bf...etc..?) - as you were dishonest and trying to be sneaky! for all you know is that she could be just waiting for a message about the party details ...
and just like evry typical douche/AFC you sent her a message straight away... smooth!

so did you have any rapport with her or just get her number ??

 

[thejerk]

A tip. Just because she's hot doesn't mean you should start caring.

 

[Guoy Darko]

If you want a date with her you should call her and not text her. Wait at least another two days to not look desperate.

And I must say I've send worse 1st text messages.

 

[Funlol]

you got her number by a lie ... smooth going!
and as a result of this you have no way of knowing if she has any interest in you (or the sistuation for that matter - has she a bf...etc..?) - as you were dishonest and trying to be sneaky! for all you know is that she could be just waiting for a message about the party details ...
and just like evry typical douche/AFC you sent her a message straight away... smooth!

so did you have any rapport with her or just get her number ??

she was in to me (or so I thought)... I just had to end it quick as my train came.. and that was all i could think of

 

[Kailex]

I normally wouldn't care as I have more girls than I know what to do with... But this one was hot.. 5'10 , and 18 years old (I'm only 24 so age isn't a big problem). My text to her that she didn't respond to was this - "Home safe! Nice meeting u this evening . Enjoy ur nite...lets meet up later this week for a jog or something. How's the rest of ur night going? What ya doing?
-jake"

Weak text I know.. But I was drunk and also high (not thinking straight)
one more piece of information - I got her number by claiming I'm
having a party next weekend and that she should stop by.. Of corse there is no party planned

now. It's been two days since that text... So I feel like it's ok to contact her again without seeming desperate... But I want an amazing text that will guarantee a response.. Something humorous. Any suggestions?

(and I'm sure she gave me a real number)

Here's the amazing text you should send her... A PHONE CALL.

Why do we feel so compelled to just TEXT all the time? Why can't we just CALL? Are we so afraid that they might not pick up or that we might HAVE to leave a voicemail???

Don't you realize that this "amazing text" might not be so amazing to her? Hell, you can't even think of this amazing text on your own and you are asking us.

Look, a few days have gone by and yes, you put WAY too much information into that one text, but the only way to find out whether you truly screwed up or not is to CALL.

You already saw what happened the first time you texted.

"Home safe! Nice meeting u this evening . Enjoy ur nite...lets meet up later this week for a jog or something. How's the rest of ur night going? What ya doing?
-jake"

Why are you telling her that you made it home safe?? I don't even do that with girlfriends.

Okay... nice to meet you, enjoy your evening... that's not too bad.

But then you want to meet up with her for a jog... or something?
Then proceed to launch into "How is your night going?"... "What are you doing?"...

Why? Aren't these questions you could have asked her simply by calling her anyway?

Just avoid the texting, for future reference. And don't lie. Avoid that. Because if she does call back, and then actually asks about the party... guess what, you have to keep lying...

I know some of the guys said to move on, but I would honestly give it one more chance with a phone call... but you'd have to play it smooth. That one text came off as almost like you were desperate for attention.

 

[Funlol]

Ya guys... well I guess I knew I needed to call her from the beginning... I guess I was just looking for an easy way out.. thanks for talking sense into me

so I just gave her a call and she didnt pick up. i didnt even bother leaving a voicemail... guess I did everything I could. (still hate myself for that text message)

 

[f283000]

A tip. Just because she's hot doesn't mean you should start caring.

Good point.

now. It's been two days since that text... So I feel like it's ok to contact her again without seeming desperate... But I want an amazing text that will guarantee a response.. Something humorous. Any suggestions?

Yeah, stop being a p***y and call her! Man up, let her hear your voice. If she doesn't respond it would be 2 strikes and she's out.

 

[dj0014]

Currently, I am reading "Attraction Isn’t A Choice" By David DeAngelo.
He puts some nice ideas there ... the less is more.
She needs to be left wondering if you like her or not.
When I've done it in my relationships it worked like a charm.


P.S. Note to Site Admin / moderators: Sometimes quick post doesn't work for me. why ?

 

[Kailex]

so I just gave her a call and she didnt pick up. i didnt even bother leaving a voicemail... guess I did everything I could. (still hate myself for that text message)

WRONG.

Doing everything you could would have to leave a voicemail.
Why didn't you leave one? For all you know, she probably never saved your number and is now looking at a weird number that left no voicemail. I know some people advocate not leaving one, but how does it hurt you to leave a short message saying who you are and to call back?

And don't "hate yourself". By saying that, it means you were putting that girl on a pedestal. You might have messed up, but she gets to miss out on you.

Call it... a learning experience. At least now, you know what text NOT to send to future women. There are MANY, MANY more women out there. Don't get hung up on this one. There will be more opportunities, some good, some bad. Just move on from this one with all the information and insight you've been provided here.

 

[Following_of_Me]

For one, dont worry about that text. If you were drunk, chances are she was too. One thing I've noticed about being pretty ****ed is that people don't really care as much about things like that. But for future reference, unless a girl asks you to tell her when you're home safe, then its not typically advised to announce it to her.

Plus, dont ever lie to get a girl's number... there are much better ways at parties.

For one, if a girl leaves a party and you are just a bit unsure of her condition, ask her to give you a call when she gets home safe. Not the strongest way, but if all else fails and she is LEAVING the party and you've basically run out of time and have no smoother ideas, just go with this.

Otherwise, when you are partying, just collect everyones numbers. Every person you have a pretty good conversation with, or feel like you connect on some level with, guys or girls. Mid conversation, just say "We'll definitely have to hang out sometime" and collect numbers.

With girls, one way I'll use is "You should give me a call sometime," and then they'll usually ask for mine and I'll tell to call my phone then so I've got theirs.

And for the real brave, something ****y. "If you're real nice to me, I might let you put your number in my phone" or any variation (ie "if you can figure out how, I will..." same idea)

It's just better than lying. You know? Its more congruent. But in your case, you now have an opportunity...plan a party and call her up? See where it goes.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

That's your drunk text?

My drunk texts have been "Cut the **** and come over", "I want you inside me", and (ok a super creepy one) "Luv you but if you don't respond its number delete!" Haha. Go booze!

 

[Weezy]

"I want you inside me"

Damn playa.. I hope I never ever get drunk enough to text that to a chick.

 

[Kailex]

I think Forty likes his prostate tickled.

 

[Reyaj]

How about the obvious that I think anyone with true experience knows

A GIRL WILL GIVE OUT HER NUMBER TO A GUY WITHOUT HAVING ANY REAL INTEREST LEVEL IN HIM

REPEAT

A GIRL WILL GIVE OUT HER NUMBER TO A GUY WITHOUT HAVING ANY REAL INTEREST LEVEL IN HIM

Its a lot easier for them to ignore you after you're gone than deal with an awkward moment in their presence

 

[amoka]

I normally wouldn't care as I have more girls than I know what to do with... But this one.....

Only if I could get a penny each time I hear this at sosuave.