"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need some words of wisdom

TheBaconator

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Background, broke up with GF 2 months ago, so looking for new females. Now, on my myspace I have a bunch of girls on my friends whom I never would really speak to, some never at all, and i'm wondering a good way to reinitate convo with them, or start it with those I never talked to, without seeming weird or desperate.

There's one in particular who is really hot and I think would be nice for me, but I never spoke to her and I only met her at a party, she was a friend of my gfs friend. Never talked with her on the myspace, just friended as an aquaintence. Now, is it just a total waste of time to even try talking through the myspace with girls? If not, what would be a good way of initating convo without seeming like a weirdo? She posts alot of surveys, so I was thinking PMing her something about one of her answers, but since I don't really know her would this come off weird?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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TheBaconator

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I know I'm a NOOB, but doesn't anyone have any advice on this? Is it a waste of time?
 

MacAvoy

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You don't tend to get many replies to myspace/facebook/online dating around here. Many people especially the older ones prefer real life communication and think myspace is for high school and college kids only.

That being said, here's my advice. It doesn't hurt to try. So what if you strike out and she doesn't remember you. Theres a couple more billion fish in the sea besides her. So give it a try.

I'll give 2 recommendations, try bringing something up in the email to her that she'll remember you by. Secondly don't send the typical hi how are you email. Put a little more substance (creativity) into it.

There are some articles on the main page, there is also the bible (link in my sig) which I think is the most valuable aspect to the site.
 

BMX

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Speaking words of wisdom, LET IT BE dum bum bum. Sorry about that, my dad is subjecting me to The Beatles way too much. Myspace/facebooking it is harder, not only does she get PM'ed by AFC's, but a bunch of creeps too. So you really need to shine through w/a witty DJ message. You are at a plus because you've met her in person before but don't use that as your crutch.
 

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Just go for it. You have nothing to lose. I don't do much online game, but every six months or so, what I'll do is go through my friends list and find all the hot girls who I don't really know and message them this:

"Do I know you? How did you get on my friend's list?"

They always answer, from there you can qualify them and start a conversation.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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