"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Need some words of wisdom

TheBaconator

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Background, broke up with GF 2 months ago, so looking for new females. Now, on my myspace I have a bunch of girls on my friends whom I never would really speak to, some never at all, and i'm wondering a good way to reinitate convo with them, or start it with those I never talked to, without seeming weird or desperate.

There's one in particular who is really hot and I think would be nice for me, but I never spoke to her and I only met her at a party, she was a friend of my gfs friend. Never talked with her on the myspace, just friended as an aquaintence. Now, is it just a total waste of time to even try talking through the myspace with girls? If not, what would be a good way of initating convo without seeming like a weirdo? She posts alot of surveys, so I was thinking PMing her something about one of her answers, but since I don't really know her would this come off weird?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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TheBaconator

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I know I'm a NOOB, but doesn't anyone have any advice on this? Is it a waste of time?
 

MacAvoy

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You don't tend to get many replies to myspace/facebook/online dating around here. Many people especially the older ones prefer real life communication and think myspace is for high school and college kids only.

That being said, here's my advice. It doesn't hurt to try. So what if you strike out and she doesn't remember you. Theres a couple more billion fish in the sea besides her. So give it a try.

I'll give 2 recommendations, try bringing something up in the email to her that she'll remember you by. Secondly don't send the typical hi how are you email. Put a little more substance (creativity) into it.

There are some articles on the main page, there is also the bible (link in my sig) which I think is the most valuable aspect to the site.
 

BMX

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Speaking words of wisdom, LET IT BE dum bum bum. Sorry about that, my dad is subjecting me to The Beatles way too much. Myspace/facebooking it is harder, not only does she get PM'ed by AFC's, but a bunch of creeps too. So you really need to shine through w/a witty DJ message. You are at a plus because you've met her in person before but don't use that as your crutch.
 

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Just go for it. You have nothing to lose. I don't do much online game, but every six months or so, what I'll do is go through my friends list and find all the hot girls who I don't really know and message them this:

"Do I know you? How did you get on my friend's list?"

They always answer, from there you can qualify them and start a conversation.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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