"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Need some words of wisdom

TheBaconator

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Background, broke up with GF 2 months ago, so looking for new females. Now, on my myspace I have a bunch of girls on my friends whom I never would really speak to, some never at all, and i'm wondering a good way to reinitate convo with them, or start it with those I never talked to, without seeming weird or desperate.

There's one in particular who is really hot and I think would be nice for me, but I never spoke to her and I only met her at a party, she was a friend of my gfs friend. Never talked with her on the myspace, just friended as an aquaintence. Now, is it just a total waste of time to even try talking through the myspace with girls? If not, what would be a good way of initating convo without seeming like a weirdo? She posts alot of surveys, so I was thinking PMing her something about one of her answers, but since I don't really know her would this come off weird?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheBaconator

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I know I'm a NOOB, but doesn't anyone have any advice on this? Is it a waste of time?
 

MacAvoy

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You don't tend to get many replies to myspace/facebook/online dating around here. Many people especially the older ones prefer real life communication and think myspace is for high school and college kids only.

That being said, here's my advice. It doesn't hurt to try. So what if you strike out and she doesn't remember you. Theres a couple more billion fish in the sea besides her. So give it a try.

I'll give 2 recommendations, try bringing something up in the email to her that she'll remember you by. Secondly don't send the typical hi how are you email. Put a little more substance (creativity) into it.

There are some articles on the main page, there is also the bible (link in my sig) which I think is the most valuable aspect to the site.
 

BMX

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Speaking words of wisdom, LET IT BE dum bum bum. Sorry about that, my dad is subjecting me to The Beatles way too much. Myspace/facebooking it is harder, not only does she get PM'ed by AFC's, but a bunch of creeps too. So you really need to shine through w/a witty DJ message. You are at a plus because you've met her in person before but don't use that as your crutch.
 

Entropy4

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Just go for it. You have nothing to lose. I don't do much online game, but every six months or so, what I'll do is go through my friends list and find all the hot girls who I don't really know and message them this:

"Do I know you? How did you get on my friend's list?"

They always answer, from there you can qualify them and start a conversation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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