Heres the situation: Ive been with my GF for over a year now. We live together currently, shes in grad school studying plant molecular biology and Im working for Wells Fargo. I have a bachelors and shes getting her masters. Now here is where I dont know what to do. She might be done this December with school and will be getting a job soon. Her job will most likely be higher pay than what I am currently doing. But I am looking to become a financial advisor which probably pulls in more money. But im not counting on it. In my line of work I could get a job anywhere in the US most likely with her its a lot more specific in where she could probably work. My thinking is that she will probably put her job first due to the fact of the masters degree and pay she has and will get. Im willing to move with her cause I think I could get a job wherever she lands. Does this seem fine? I also dont know if I should bring it up or if she should. let me know thanks
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Need some sound advice with someone with experience
- Thread starter MKS82
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
"My thinking is that she will probably put her job first due to the fact of the masters degree and pay she has and will get. "
If this is a LTGF with even more LT potential, talk about your goals. Ask her what her LT career goals are and how they fit in with how she sees your relationship playing out. Just listen! Peel the onion then and ask her "how", "why", etc. Just act curious. Ask open-ended questions. Get as much info as possible to save yourself a HUGE headache down the road. I work with people ALL THE TIME who get serious and don't do this, then they end up a$$ r4ped in court.
Make sure you're both on the same page so there isn't a rude awakening 3 yrs from now when you're married with a kid and she pulls the "career move" issue on you.
Define your "deal breakers." Is moving one of them? It would be for me. People can still surprise you a lot after 1 yr. in a relationship.
If this is a LTGF with even more LT potential, talk about your goals. Ask her what her LT career goals are and how they fit in with how she sees your relationship playing out. Just listen! Peel the onion then and ask her "how", "why", etc. Just act curious. Ask open-ended questions. Get as much info as possible to save yourself a HUGE headache down the road. I work with people ALL THE TIME who get serious and don't do this, then they end up a$$ r4ped in court.
Make sure you're both on the same page so there isn't a rude awakening 3 yrs from now when you're married with a kid and she pulls the "career move" issue on you.
Define your "deal breakers." Is moving one of them? It would be for me. People can still surprise you a lot after 1 yr. in a relationship.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Are you going to stay at home and look after the kids?
Thought not. Concentrate on your career.
Thought not. Concentrate on your career.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.