"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Need some some help closing with a young chick.

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Fellas,

Ive got a plate im tryin to spin. Shes young - but interested. Calls, Texts, came to my place for first time today.

Problem is...shes got a man. They are both young (sub 20's) but she likes how im older and mysterious. Man is never around (different state). From what I can tell shes a total nutjob. I really should next her for many reasons and most likely will.

Im tryin to sleep with her (we have done some naughty things online - real naughty) but I cant close - she feels guilty about cheating on the man.

Probably will next her - she definatly isnt LTR material. But I wanted to see if anyone had any advice to sleep with her.

Thanks in advance. Shes not the only plate btw - got two others. Again, just some advice.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alcohol equals sex
Dinner equals sleep

Ask her for drinks at a public place, get her comfortable, not showing you want sex. Then sex will happen.
 

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tinctrar said:
Fellas,

Ive got a plate im tryin to spin. Shes young - but interested. Calls, Texts, came to my place for first time today.

Problem is...shes got a man. They are both young (sub 20's) but she likes how im older and mysterious. Man is never around (different state). From what I can tell shes a total nutjob. I really should next her for many reasons and most likely will.
So why are you NOT nexting her?

tinctrar said:
Im tryin to sleep with her (we have done some naughty things online - real naughty) but I cant close - she feels guilty about cheating on the man.

Probably will next her - she definatly isnt LTR material. But I wanted to see if anyone had any advice to sleep with her.
Ok, it's all about the sex. Have you ever heard of the phrase: 'You are who you roll with?' or 'You are who you lie with?' Or in this case, 'You are who you sleep with.'

You can't escape that fact. By sleeping with *nutjobs* you are degrading yourself.

This is not something a high-value male would do. It's one thing to chant like a monkey 'I am the Prize to be won' it's another thing to live like it.
 

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Falcon25 said:
Alcohol equals sex
Dinner equals sleep

Ask her for drinks at a public place, get her comfortable, not showing you want sex. Then sex will happen.
Alcohol?? I read, "sub-20s". You don't want a "statch charge". Be careful.

She's been over your house once already...how has the kino been going?

If a girl comes to hang out at my house, I'm assuming she's there for a reason. :whistle:
 

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if she is feeling guilty, try alleviating that guilt.

Convince her that it's not a big deal. It's just a little secret thing between two of you - after all you both have needs. As Jonny Soporno said; be the guy that doesn't count.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Thanks for the input brothers.

@falcon - normally follow that pattern. Havent really taken a woman out to dinner in years unless she is my LTR. She is under 20. No alchohol man...you never know what a chick can say (read Traders post)

@Trader - Good point - its actually what I felt when I was creating this post. Already about to next her anyway cause of the "You are who you sleep with"

@Squirrels - Kino has actually escalated...but talk of the bf also has. When we first met she didnt let me know she had a man - kinda find out. But since then I told her I didnt care about the man...not my problem. Lately she has been bringing up up more often. Probably a sh!t test. I told her yesterday that she came over for a reason...kino escalated even more.

@spider - That will by my last attempt - ill let you know how it goes.

Thanks again brothers.
 
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