drewsg
Don Juan
what shades are those
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
snowdog said:I'm sure everyone will agree that a (good) suit looks good on any guy.
Versace.drewsg said:what shades are those
Nexus Polaris said:Honestly, I'd go back to the look you had a year ago. The suit was smooth. Pretty GQ. You look like kind of a douchebag in your pic from April. No offense.
What's most important, though, is to make sure your look matches your personality. Make sure it reflects who you really are as a person. Anything that isn't genuine, no matter how good it might look, will hinder your game because it will come across as incongruent.
How did you knew I was writing a novel?GreatHornedOwl said:How's that novel you've been working on, snowdog?
You ever tried growing a fro? I always thought that's f*cking cool. A friend of mine has a HUGE one and girls love it. He gets automatic attention and they all wanna touch it and stuff. If you have an extreme hair style like that, it shows that you're confident enough to not give a sh*t. You got the right hair and you're black, so you can pull it off. Afro's will never look as cool on a white guy as on a black guy. Same goes for bald heads.I'm talkin' about face wise. That suit thing was a one time thing for a school award ceremony.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Much better, you can tell effort went into the haircut. Similiar to my hairstyle, short sides and longer on top is a guarenteed win move.SeymourCake said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
give her 2 me lolSeymourCake said:some phillipino chick that went to school with me.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.