"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ediceneet12

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Ok here's my situation on the last day of school I gave this girl in one of my classes a ride home. We had a great conversation in the car and before I dropped her off I said i'll see her next year or maybe over the summer and before i could ask for her number she was already writing it down for me.

Anyways the next night I texted her and and she gave me obvious signs that she wanted me to take her out. she said stuff like "you should take me sometime : )" and she did it multiple times and started flirting with me pretty hard. Anyways I asked her out last Wednesday to hangout and she had cancelled on me telling me she stayed out late and her mom got upset because she didn't let her know she was staying out. I got a friend of mine who knew her to tell me that infact she wasn't flaking on me for no reason.

I brushed it off and a few days later I asked to set up a day to hangout today. I sent her a text saying i'd call her once i'm outside her house. anyways she sent me a message saying that she had gotten called into work and that she was sorry.

It seemed like she was really into me with the way she was texting me/talking to me in the car. I haven't sent her a single message since she sent me the message saying she was busy.

My question is what should i do from here if anything since i'm still pretty interested in this girl.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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gravityeyelids

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She's prob just busy. I would freeze her out for like a week. If she's interested she will prob shoot you a text. If she doesnt get back to you, either just move on or throw out a last chance offer to hangout.

But TELL her what you two are gonna do. And make it cheap. Like coffee or just going to the park or something, dont put any money or much efffort into it.

Again, idk how many times you talked with her in the class. but if you guys have an inside joke or something you can tease her about, try to tie it in
 

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You asked twice already. She knows you want to hook up. The ball is well and truly in her court.

Basically any more chasing from and she'll take you as her own personal puppy.

SHE has to initiate next contact. Without that, you have no IL.

Interest level depends on how she feels at any given moment. She can be a flirty little mind when she's at your side, but cold as ice on the phone when her period starts.

Either way. Let it sit. Go hit on other chicks and become busy yourself.
 

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Alright thanks for the tips homie.

she sent me this message

"I got called into work from 4 to 9 i'm sorry :("


what should i do as in responding to her?
 

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It's not an offer to meet up. It's not even a decent apology.
I would ignore. However I understand the temptation to reply and to that end if you really MUST.

"K"

No more. Just "k".

Let that hamster get up and running.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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like2jam

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Then maybe say nothing. It's not like she came back with I'm busy, but let's try next week or something.

If she's interested, she'll follow up again.
 
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