Need some perspective (re-post new thread)

[Sparta112]

So my BPD ex came back into the picture after extended no contact,... We have been dating 6mo but she recently split me because I lied about how I met a girl before I met while we were not together,... (I met her on match but said it was in person,...) anyway my gf randomly showed up at my place last week to "confess" about a lie she had told me about sleeping with her ex and suddenly said when I can be honest with her that I can call her,.. (Projection rigt) anyway she then said oh by the way her ex whom she works with was going through her phone and found my number and wants to contact me to "tell me the truth about her" she says she doesn't trust him and that he has nothing positive to say about her and that it's not real safe for me to talk to him get she still obviously does and now this guy has my contact info,...

I'm wondering if I should bite the Bulltet and contact her ex before he calls me, I found him on FB and just say "hey I heard you have my number and want to talk and that I would be willing to listen but only over the phone" I figure I may need some more information to make informed decisions here and she has split me to negative and split so I'm thinking that this guy might be a good source for the truth,...

Any advice?

 

[Sparta112]

Bump,... Anyone, no comment from the peanut gallery

 

[Scars]

So my BPD ex came back into the picture after extended no contact,... We have been dating 6mo but she recently split me because I lied about how I met a girl before I met while we were not together,... (I met her on match but said it was in person,...) anyway my gf randomly showed up at my place last week to "confess" about a lie she had told me about sleeping with her ex and suddenly said when I can be honest with her that I can call her,.. (Projection rigt) anyway she then said oh by the way her ex whom she works with was going through her phone and found my number and wants to contact me to "tell me the truth about her" she says she doesn't trust him and that he has nothing positive to say about her and that it's not real safe for me to talk to him get she still obviously does and now this guy has my contact info,...

I'm wondering if I should bite the Bulltet and contact her ex before he calls me, I found him on FB and just say "hey I heard you have my number and want to talk and that I would be willing to listen but only over the phone" I figure I may need some more information to make informed decisions here and she has split me to negative and split so I'm thinking that this guy might be a good source for the truth,...

Any advice?

*Smack*

Why in the hell did you go back to your BPD ex? She hasn't even been around that long and look at the mess of drama she's brought with her.

Her ex probably wants to call you so he can tell you that he was banging her the whole time you two were together and that she can't be trusted. Probably just a bunch of stuff you already know. I don't think you need to talk to him at all, it could just enrage you even more. Speak to him if you really want to, but it seems pointless to me. Get rid of this b!tch now and all her drama which brings with her (which includes her ex).

Shame on you.

-Scars

 

[headFirst]

Dude.. he is an ex.. and obviously still attached. Sounds vindictive and jealous.. I wouldn't care what he has to say. Just go on about your life with her.. And if he contacts you, be the bigger person and tell him you are not interested. Trust me it will save you a lot of grief and headache.

If you want to convict your current gf or whatever she is to you of anything, do it on your own accord.. don't let this "ex" paint a false picture because his butt is hurt.

edit: I skimmed over what you wrote.. and after the re-read I see she left you.. yea just next her, she obviously came back because she had no one else.. but regardless who cares what this guy has to say. You don't know him so why believe anything he has to say anyway. I'm sure whatever his motive is, it's really not in your best interest anyway.

 

[Three]

Dude - If she's truly a BPD, then RUN! The stories aren't just stories, man. They will consume your soul and you will be loving it like heroin until it literally kills you. They are toxic and will ruin your life, your health, your finances, everything that you care about.

Also, think about the situation for a minute. Why the fuck would you talk to her ex? Are you guys in 7th grade? That is crazy shit that adults do not do.

 

[Purefilth]

He could be trying to warn you about her BPD - and she wont like him telling you how fvcked up she is. If she is BPD, and you already know that, then why are you going back anyway?