"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Need some long distance advice...

Just A Guy...

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Okay, here's the deal. I know that two of the most popular questions on any site of this type are "How do I tell if she's into me?" and "How do I let her know I'm interested in more than just friendship?". Because no two situations are identical, there is no universal correct answer. So I'm going to describe my situation as vividly as possible.

I met this girl through a mutual friend. Since then, said girl and I have kept in contact via various social networking websites. We've got similar interests, so there's not a lack of conversation material. We've only actually hung out twice, the first time at a concert (where we met), and the second at a party the other night. The first time we met, I used some kino type stuff. So she's obviously comfortable with me touching her. We've talked on the phone several times, and have flirted a little during these conversations. In fact, many of these phone conversations were At the party, there was a little more flirting, and it was a little more intense.

She lives about an hour away. But I know that she's done the long distance thing before with a longer distance than that, so that's not really a problem. Anyway, the catch is that I'm moving in about a month, and will be about four and a half hours away.

I'm confident in my abilities, and she seems cool enough NOT to freak out if I asked her out. My problem will be trying to convince her (if it DOES go somewhere) that it's worth giving it a shot. I'm hoping that someone who has had some experience in long distance relationships will read this and have some advice for me. Could I pull this off (and if so, how?), or is it not worth the effort?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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horaholic

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I wouldnt start a 'thing' with her ,I'd just try to hit it while you can, and after you move, be single, and see each other when you can, like a long distance FB. Dont be exclusive though, you'll go nuts. It doesnt work.

Why haven't you asked her out yet? Whats up with thinking she will 'freak out?'
 

Just A Guy...

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I haven't asked her out yet because I hadn't started to like her until just recently.
 
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