"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need some 'high-energy' date suggestions mates.

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Last night i hooked up with the finest woman i have ever had the pleasure to touch. HB 8.5 by my rating system , although it matters little to the question. Throughout the night i noticed her fast-paced storytelling/tangent seeking and generally bubbly, excitable personality. Throughout the party she had many suitors and i'd say the number one thing which drew her to me (and that i learnt from this site!) was that i didnt fall into her frame, i maintained my own quiet, 'cool' reality and conversed with her without mirroring her personality, which all the other guys did. To be honest all of them are superiour to me in looks, so i have to chalk this one up to sosuave.com.

Well onto my question, i'm going to invite her out in a few days and i need some activity suggestions. She's definately the type who would hate a coffe date, movie or dinner (and i want to have some fun too). Here are the ones i have so far:

-Organise a way to teach her how to throw a punch (not sure how yet, but i recon it could be figured out. She professed interest in it last night)
- Take her Ice skating
- Take her bowling
- on a picnic (mayb too slow moving for her, but its something i want to do before it gets too cold)

If you have any suggestions or tips, please post :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeh, its pretty up there on my list at the moment. One possible problem is that she may have just been saying that she wants to try it out as a way of showing interest in me (everyone knows i box). I dont want it to look as though i'm too focus'd on myself, like renting out a best-of footy injuries and buying some beer for a date if you know what i mean.
 

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Chillisauce said:
Yeh, its pretty up there on my list at the moment. One possible problem is that she may have just been saying that she wants to try it out as a way of showing interest in me (everyone knows i box).
Then the date goes hand in hand with your personality. Even if she's not interested in boxing, she's interested in you. Go for it. It's worth a try. Plus, like Bloke said... It's original.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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if where on the subject of martial arts anyway, why not go Freestyle juijutsu...its nice and all kino if you know what I mean...you'd kind of imagine that it wouldnt be the most romantic thingy, but believe me, we have this couple at my training grounds, and you can really see the love, when they start off like play wrestling(freestyle juijutsu is mainly ground fighting)...all technique, no strenght at all.
 

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Bile said:
if where on the subject of martial arts anyway, why not go Freestyle juijutsu...its nice and all kino if you know what I mean...you'd kind of imagine that it wouldnt be the most romantic thingy, but believe me, we have this couple at my training grounds, and you can really see the love, when they start off like play wrestling(freestyle juijutsu is mainly ground fighting)...all technique, no strenght at all.
jiu jitsu might be a liiiiiiiiitle much for a first date lol. think gaurd work. that = instant peen to **** contact.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i want to go paintballing with a girl on a date but they all ***** out

i want to completely dominate a girl in paintball

then i will finally feel like a real man
 

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take the day (or a few days off) ,take a mini road trip,check out a different city,check out the downtown area,grab some grub,walk around the city,go to all the little knick nack shops,then maybe even grab a night at either a cheapo cracked out motel and have some cheap hotel sex,bring some JD some dank and have some cheap motel sex or stay at an expensize one with a balconey looking over the skyline..don't forget the drugs and booze... no one else has done this?
 

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jiu jitsu isnt such a good idea, mainly because i suck at it ;).

Painball and go-carting seem abit too impersonal to me (no touching at all, and its really hard to converse with people through the mask, plus her friend shattered her ankle go-carting last week).

confusion's idea has some merit, but i'm currently lisence less and would probably end in a cheap hotel by myself drunk and wondering what happened.

I'v decided to go with my original idea - get her a gym pass and tell her to meet me in the city wearing excercise clothing. then after teaching her how to throw some basic punches with alot of kino take her out for icecream. I'll let you all know how it goes, thanks for the suggestions mates :).
 

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Espi said:
I would refrain from sports with violent connotations (i.e. boxing)...great to go with a male friend, but not a girl, IMO...
when else can you hit a girl and get away with it? - arnold
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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