"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Need some 'high-energy' date suggestions mates.

Chillisauce

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Last night i hooked up with the finest woman i have ever had the pleasure to touch. HB 8.5 by my rating system , although it matters little to the question. Throughout the night i noticed her fast-paced storytelling/tangent seeking and generally bubbly, excitable personality. Throughout the party she had many suitors and i'd say the number one thing which drew her to me (and that i learnt from this site!) was that i didnt fall into her frame, i maintained my own quiet, 'cool' reality and conversed with her without mirroring her personality, which all the other guys did. To be honest all of them are superiour to me in looks, so i have to chalk this one up to sosuave.com.

Well onto my question, i'm going to invite her out in a few days and i need some activity suggestions. She's definately the type who would hate a coffe date, movie or dinner (and i want to have some fun too). Here are the ones i have so far:

-Organise a way to teach her how to throw a punch (not sure how yet, but i recon it could be figured out. She professed interest in it last night)
- Take her Ice skating
- Take her bowling
- on a picnic (mayb too slow moving for her, but its something i want to do before it gets too cold)

If you have any suggestions or tips, please post :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chillisauce

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Yeh, its pretty up there on my list at the moment. One possible problem is that she may have just been saying that she wants to try it out as a way of showing interest in me (everyone knows i box). I dont want it to look as though i'm too focus'd on myself, like renting out a best-of footy injuries and buying some beer for a date if you know what i mean.
 

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Chillisauce said:
Yeh, its pretty up there on my list at the moment. One possible problem is that she may have just been saying that she wants to try it out as a way of showing interest in me (everyone knows i box).
Then the date goes hand in hand with your personality. Even if she's not interested in boxing, she's interested in you. Go for it. It's worth a try. Plus, like Bloke said... It's original.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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if where on the subject of martial arts anyway, why not go Freestyle juijutsu...its nice and all kino if you know what I mean...you'd kind of imagine that it wouldnt be the most romantic thingy, but believe me, we have this couple at my training grounds, and you can really see the love, when they start off like play wrestling(freestyle juijutsu is mainly ground fighting)...all technique, no strenght at all.
 

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Bile said:
if where on the subject of martial arts anyway, why not go Freestyle juijutsu...its nice and all kino if you know what I mean...you'd kind of imagine that it wouldnt be the most romantic thingy, but believe me, we have this couple at my training grounds, and you can really see the love, when they start off like play wrestling(freestyle juijutsu is mainly ground fighting)...all technique, no strenght at all.
jiu jitsu might be a liiiiiiiiitle much for a first date lol. think gaurd work. that = instant peen to **** contact.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i want to go paintballing with a girl on a date but they all ***** out

i want to completely dominate a girl in paintball

then i will finally feel like a real man
 

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take the day (or a few days off) ,take a mini road trip,check out a different city,check out the downtown area,grab some grub,walk around the city,go to all the little knick nack shops,then maybe even grab a night at either a cheapo cracked out motel and have some cheap hotel sex,bring some JD some dank and have some cheap motel sex or stay at an expensize one with a balconey looking over the skyline..don't forget the drugs and booze... no one else has done this?
 

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jiu jitsu isnt such a good idea, mainly because i suck at it ;).

Painball and go-carting seem abit too impersonal to me (no touching at all, and its really hard to converse with people through the mask, plus her friend shattered her ankle go-carting last week).

confusion's idea has some merit, but i'm currently lisence less and would probably end in a cheap hotel by myself drunk and wondering what happened.

I'v decided to go with my original idea - get her a gym pass and tell her to meet me in the city wearing excercise clothing. then after teaching her how to throw some basic punches with alot of kino take her out for icecream. I'll let you all know how it goes, thanks for the suggestions mates :).
 

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Espi said:
I would refrain from sports with violent connotations (i.e. boxing)...great to go with a male friend, but not a girl, IMO...
when else can you hit a girl and get away with it? - arnold
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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