"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Need some help with clothes

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I am clueless about what to wear anymore. I gave up on staying in style in middle school. lol I have not idea what clothes women find attractive on men anymore. Only the pants I have anymore are work pants and dress pants. Mostly just t shirts and a few dress shirts and shoes are just tennis shoes, work boots and a one pair of dress shoes.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Start with Primer Magazine's "The Getup."

http://www.primermagazine.com/tag/the-getup

It's not advanced and doesn't vary much but it lays out options that are classically stylish, color coordinated, and layered to break down the basics of male fashion.

I'd also figure out what color clothes work best with your skin tone. I'm pale with green/blue eyes so I wear alot of green and blue to show off my eyes with subdued colors like beige, olive, and off-white.

http://www.askmen.com/fashion/fashiontip_200/222_fashion_advice.html

Take a couple of female friends with you shopping once or twice. They love make overs so they will be eager to go and may even buy you a piece or two. They will give you another perspective that you might not have considered.

Good luck.
 

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FairShake said:
Start with Primer Magazine's "The Getup."

http://www.primermagazine.com/tag/the-getup

It's not advanced and doesn't vary much but it lays out options that are classically stylish, color coordinated, and layered to break down the basics of male fashion.

I'd also figure out what color clothes work best with your skin tone. I'm pale with green/blue eyes so I wear alot of green and blue to show off my eyes with subdued colors like beige, olive, and off-white.

http://www.askmen.com/fashion/fashiontip_200/222_fashion_advice.html

Take a couple of female friends with you shopping once or twice. They love make overs so they will be eager to go and may even buy you a piece or two. They will give you another perspective that you might not have considered.

Good luck.
Thanks man
 

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Fairshake, good links - repped.

OP, also look at guys out in public places and notice who looks good and who doesn't, and then analyze the differences. Specifically look for folks with your body type and take cues from that. I have learned a lot that way.
 

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MOTU said:
Fairshake, good links - repped.

OP, also look at guys out in public places and notice who looks good and who doesn't, and then analyze the differences. Specifically look for folks with your body type and take cues from that. I have learned a lot that way.
Thanks
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dear NiteRider,
Your info on shoes is quite disastrous...It may surprise you,but most are obsessed with shoes...having such a Tall girl...Your current belle exceeds six Feet I believe...Heels are a must!...I suggest Zip up Cowboy boots...In Cool weather a stylish Ascot style Cravat/Scarf looks good!
 

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I've posted this advice before and it's always served me well. Find a celebrity with your same age, body frame, and coloring, and copy them. They spend thousands of dollars of stylists... look at what they wear in pictures and you will know what works best for you.
 

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Go out and about. When you see a couple and you see a girl who is attractive, one you'd bang, see what the dude with her is wearing and copy that.
 

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Man! Can modern "fashion" for men be any more unmanly? That's my main gripe with a lot of those websites.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's not about becoming a princess, it's about looking good. A man should dress well.
 

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Most guys don't have a clue how to dress, myself included.

When I started dating again, I made a small investment of $15 to buy;

AskMen.com Presents
The Style Bible: The 11 Rules for Building a Complete and Timeless Wardrobe.

Great book with simple, practical advice that you can build on...
Then head out to a local discount mall every couple of weeks after work and see what you can pick up.
Don't try to do it all at once. Be selective and (armed with knowledge) start buying individual pieces that work well together...
It doesn't have to cost a fortune.

And I second the comment on shoes...
Women LOVE shoes and it's the first thing they notice....
They won't typically comment on bad shoes, but will almost always comment on nice, stylish shoes.

You don't have to look like a fashion model...
You just need to look better than the last guy she went out on a date with...
 
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